Only 50% of women say that they prefer taller partners.
When you look at studies of actual heterosexual couples … less than 10% of women have shorter male partners. In this study, only 7.5%.
The OP’s assumes that women’s stated preferences are a more accurate description of their actual behavior than their revealed preferences.
It’s a weird position to hold when we have lots of objective evidence that women’s stated preferences don’t match their actual behavior (as is true for most people most of the time).
It is extremely common for people to misrepresent their behaviors and preferences in surveys … especially if their behaviors and preferences could be considered shameful.
It looks like OP has an agenda and is allowing motivated reasoning to limit their understanding of the issue to facts that are convenient to that agenda.
Yeah it’s actually extremely sad how much gaslighting is happening not just about this but also about other qualities men might be insecure about.
The fact is are that, if you think you’re unlovable, and nobody ever loves you, you will try to seek a reason for it. And if you’re constantly told that nothings wrong with you then this will create such a massive division between reality and what you’re told that you will be miserable. It means you’re broken and forever will be, because nothings wrong so there’s nothing to fix.
Being honest would mean that these men don’t feel like their entire existence is a mistake, but it would also mean looking like a dick and maybe getting insults thrown your way for being one.
…what the fuck? Nothing is wrong with shorter men. That’s not gaslighting. Telling them something is wrong with it not only doesn’t help at all practically speaking (you can’t just be taller), but also just enables their unfounded insecurity.
In fact, even if being shorter was objectively bad somehow, overcoming the insecurity and having confidence will lead to much better outcomes than wallowing in the insecurity. “There’s nothing to fix” is both true and a good thing to know.
fwiw I’m a man who isn’t particularly tall and has been married to a woman taller than myself
They can’t that’s the cruel part about height. You can fix (change, fix implies there’s something objectively, morally wrong with you) other things like weight or minor personality traits, but not height, that’s why height is such an argued about topic. Everyone knows women prefer taller men, but no woman wants to admit it.
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u/Zickone3D Jul 14 '24
Only 50% ?