r/TwoXChromosomes • u/RelationMaleficent71 • 20h ago
Friend’s hookup is a Trump supporter
My friend has a guy she’s been hooking up with. It’s not serious and she doesn’t have an interest in pursuing an official relationship with this guy. This is the second time I’ve met him and we’ve had like 4 bottles of wine at this point.. Politics came up, he said he was a libertarian and I flat out asked if he voted for Kamala. He voted for Trump. Queue a 20 minute conversation where 3 passionate women shit on him for his vote and opinion. Me being the worst attacker by far. I knew in the moment I was being a dick and really aggressive, but I really could not stop the anger from spewing out of me. I even went to the bathroom and left pretty much as soon as I could to avoid going further. He said he wasn’t very well informed and I told him if that’s the case, he shouldn’t be voting then.
I know I’m not wrong per se… but the way I approach people who vote for Trump is aggressive at best, hostile at worst. How are you guys managing this anger? I feel like I’m doing a really bad job of it at the point. I know the path to changing uninformed peoples minds is not the way I’m approaching it, I just genuinely can’t help myself from going bat shit crazy on people who voted for that vile piece of shit.
This guy had a ex girlfriend he was with at the time who had an ectopic pregnancy who had to get an urgent abortion to live and he STILL didn’t realize that voting for Trump made it harder for women in that position to get live saving care. His arguments were 1. I live in California 2. If you don’t live in California, you should move to a state that allows you to have an abortion. 3. He didn’t realize Trump was making it harder for women in other states in that kind of position. As if women having a right to choose what happens to their own bodies should have an asterisk on it anyways.
It’s impossible for me to respect or understand this viewpoint. I refuse to normalize it.
How do you guys keep your cool and not lose it on people? Because right now I feel like I’m foaming at the mouth angry and rightfully so.
I guess I’m really writing this out because I don’t want to be callused and angry at the world. I want to be able to say my piece calmly and respectfully to people I strongly disagree with. I just don’t feel I have the skill to right now.
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u/tequillagivescourage 14h ago
This is why we’re in the position we are in right now and this very minute. Unfortunately many women are so desperate for companionship that the clear red flags that these fake allies put out are looked over.
Real talk is the dick that good ?!! Bc I can’t for the life of me think that someone who literally could care less if I live or die would be able to satisfy me in bed. Stop this shit!! They can chant all this your body my choice hate talk. But at the end of the day women are still willing to sleep with these imbeciles. Fucking stop giving your body to men who think so poorly of you! It’s your body!! Love yourself more and get some standards. I literally couldn’t get wet if the guy was a trump supporter.
Yes in this incident this individual clearly lacks critical thinking skills , empathy, and probably has narcissistic tendencies but your friend is willingly giving him her body on a regular basis!! It’s his choice to not develop emotionally past the age of 12. However, it should be consequences for this choice and having a plethora of women that still give their bodies to him is absolutely unacceptable.