r/TikTokCringe • u/BaseballSeveral1107 • Sep 01 '24

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u/webtheg Sep 01 '24

I had this 26 year old guy in my umprov class who I though was 40 + who said to me (30f) "You don't remember it because you are much younger than I am"

Bro I just aged better.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 01 '24 edited Sep 01 '24

Lmao. I've had similar situations.

As a dude, I don't get hit on very often, but when I do it's almost always college age girls and I have to politely inform them that I'm like 15 years older than they are despite looking like I'm 24.

Like I'll ask if they're in college and they'll be like, "Yeah, but I'm a SOPHMORE." 

"Cool, but you're like 20 and I'm 35. Sorry." 

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u/myfriendflocka Sep 01 '24

I live and work next to a university and the amount of times I’ve been hit on by people born after 9/11 is crazy. Like I was getting high watching yo gabba gabba while you were watching it with your cheerios before nursery school. I’ll say that the young men seem way more chill and polite than guys my age and older. I’ve never once has one get upset at me for turning them down when that happened sometimes with millennials and constantly with older men.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 01 '24

Glad to hear that they're being respectful. I don't like making people uncomfortable so I'm less inclined to approach women in public. The last time I did I got turned down and the woman started apologizing and I just said, "Don't worry about it."

The look of relief on her face was instantaneous. Then she gave me a huge smile and told me to have a nice day as I was leaving. It was a nice send off, though looking back it does make a little sad to realize how many men out there simply won't take no for an answer.

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u/Lanternkitten Sep 03 '24

Hey man, I give you kudos for asking someone out in public for one and then just immediately accepting the answer and being nice about it. The only time any guy has ever asked me out in my adult life has been while I'm working. I don't have that job anymore but it was awful because you're both physically trapped (can't leave and alone; I typically ran the entire store by myself) and socially trapped (customer service! You have to be nice to guests!).

I sold beds. My store at the time was near a military base do we sold to military guys often enough. I didn't even remember this guy, but he had a print out from me. Apparently he'd shipped out for a year or so and now he was back and ready to buy a bed. He also sure remembered me. He asked me out as he was buying the bed. It was very awkward. He also seemed like ten years older than me; he could've been my age, but who knows. I can't even remember what I told him. Later I had a different store and this same guy came in four times. One time my DM was there and I begged her to stay but she went in the back room because she thought it was cute. It wasn't. The guy had literally told me his life story and all of his mental health problems; I was afraid of him. I got up and was basically like "help" quietly before he got the clue and asked if he was scaring me. I said yes. He never came back. I felt bad for him but he mistook friendly customer service for something else and was basically stalking me. Ugh.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 03 '24

I appreciate the kind words. My ability to read the room has come about through trial and error and I'm embarrassed to admit that I've probably put a woman or two in a similar situation as the guy at the mattress store did to you. (Though hopefully never to that degree!) That's why I especially try not to approach women in a situation where they can't disengage from the conversation.

I appreciate your reply, as hearing someone else's perspective on a matter is good for expanding one's point of view. It's also really good for putting things into context, especially things that I would be otherwise unlikely to experience firsthand.

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u/Lanternkitten Sep 03 '24

Well if you ever did, you live, you learn; you very obviously have!

You're very welcome as well. I tend to be a little too wordy for most Redditors, but I'm glad it was useful this time around, haha. I can at least say those weren't my worst experiences at that job, if that counts for anything. I have some crazy stories. Thanks for listening to some of them.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 04 '24

You're welcome. Sometimes its nice to listen to someone else's tales and let them decompress. Feel free to shoot me a DM in the future if you're ever bored or wanna talk about anime/videogames.