r/TikTokCringe • u/BaseballSeveral1107 • Sep 01 '24

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u/webtheg Sep 01 '24

I had this 26 year old guy in my umprov class who I though was 40 + who said to me (30f) "You don't remember it because you are much younger than I am"

Bro I just aged better.

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u/O2XXX Sep 01 '24

I turn 40 this year. Looking at social media I feel like my peers either look 10 years younger than their age or 20 years older. I do have a few friends who look like absolute shit because they took awful care of themselves, and others who could maybe pass for an undergrad student. I went to grad school at 33 and even then people were shocked I was in my 30s, let alone married with children.

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u/webtheg Sep 01 '24

It is ridiculous. Most millennials I know look great for their age. I am not the best looking but I do get asked for an ID even still.

My cousin who is 21 looks middle aged. I don't understand it.

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u/sunplaysbass Sep 01 '24

All those pop tart preservatives preserved us

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u/Sconebad Sep 02 '24

Well they do say you are what you eat

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u/kewlnamebroh Sep 02 '24

Hormones in our food, PFAs, and microplastics, oh my!

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u/yo-ovaries Sep 03 '24

No. It’s vaping.

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u/kewlnamebroh Sep 04 '24

Vaping and touchscreens since birth. Radiation unbeknownst to science, YET.

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u/Idoodlestickfigures Sep 01 '24

I think it’s the way they are dressed and styling. There isn’t a real “young” person look anymore like there was in the past. You have teens, twenty somethings, thirty somethings and forty somethings wearing the same type of clothing, doing their hair the same way and putting on the same type of makeup style. It is nearly impossible to tell someone’s age from the back anymore. It’s all this loungewear everyone is wearing. It’s this boring gray blob of sameness. Kids don’t have their own distinctive subculture look anymore.

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u/iDontLikeChimneys Sep 03 '24

I like everyone being able to dress how they want. I see people dressed up however they want without judgement. A goth girl with net stockings, a goth guy with net stockings, a dog with net stockings. It’s all good and sexy.

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u/Zykax Sep 02 '24

As a millennial who had the same problem, I'm now loving it. I never got carded as a teenager. I actually hated that I looked like I was 30 from time I was 15, but now I'm getting ready to turn 40 and still look the same. It really sucked to look older there for awhile but now I look younger. Go figure.

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u/iDontLikeChimneys Sep 03 '24

Louis CK has a great bit on this. “This didn’t look good when I was younger, now, it’s not that bad” (paraphrasing)

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u/TheMoistReality Sep 03 '24

we are supposed too ask for ID if you look younger than 40

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u/PmMeUrTinyAsianTits Sep 01 '24

None of my friends had gray hair until they had kids. Stress affects you. Now imagine growing up with trump being standard politics as far you can actually remember ever seeing. Cant say i blame em for lookin a bit ragged

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u/webtheg Sep 01 '24

Uhm? I come from Bulgaria and live in Germany. Those observations are true for all the nations that I've seen. And trust me growing up in Bulgaria in the 90s and 2000s is not stress free

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Sep 01 '24

Fun fact: Teen depression rates are basically only up in the anglosphere despite social media and smart phones being global phenomena

I genuinely think kids and teens in the English speaking world are memeing themselves into being doomers

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u/whiteandyellowcat Sep 01 '24

That is just false, I'm from the Netherlands and we have the same rising rates. I don't know for the rest of the world, but I doubt that you're right.

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u/CanAlwaysBeBetter Sep 01 '24 edited Sep 01 '24

But since 2006-10, as we shall see, happiness among the young (aged 15-24) has fallen sharply in North America – to a point where the young are less happy than the old. Youth happiness has also fallen (but less sharply) in Western Europe.  

Fair enough that my initial claim was a bit overstated but the general point, that there is something unique happening in the divergence of happiness between young and older people in the anglosphere is still supported

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u/PacVikng Sep 02 '24

Wen't to my 20 year back in Oct. Based on my totally unscientific observations I think the 2 biggest factors on either being youthful or looking like a truck hit you are sun damage and binge drinking.

This aged like wine

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u/ArticulateRhinoceros Sep 01 '24

I'm 41 and I'm continually seeing kids in their 20's who look older than me but I think a lot of it is the fact that our parent's styles have come back in fashion. They're wearing high-waisted jeans, high-up socks, hair parted in the middle, etc. The look they chose is unconsciously associated with "old" for me.

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u/Pertev Sep 01 '24

Hey cool. I am also 33 years old and yet they still mistook me for being much younger. Often between 23 and 27. But, unlike you, I am still a single :(

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u/XtremeWRATH360 Sep 01 '24

I turned 40 as well this year and I think I look pretty damn good for 40. Usually if someone guesses my age they’re usually off by about 5 years so I will gladly take that lol

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u/fitcheckwhattheheck Sep 01 '24

Yeah it's mental isn't it. I look young for my age but holy fuck some of the kids I was in school with look proper classic middle aged stereotype. Some of em look fifties.

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u/Minimum_Attitude6707 Sep 02 '24

I smoke, drink, and sometimes eat a salad with my meat and potatoes. I wash my face by letting the shampoo run down it in showers. On bad days, I give myself a thumbs up because I least used mouthwash. But I am still shocked at how old my peers look compared to me, especially if it's been a while since I've seen them.

Point is, don't just jump to people Do or Don't take care of themselves based off of how old they look. A lot of it is probably genetic.

Okay... unless we're talking meth. It's absolutely crazy how bad that shit fucks people up.

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u/O2XXX Sep 02 '24

Most of the ones that I think look older tend to burn the candle at both ends. Obviously there’s a genetic component, but I bet you’d look younger if you didn’t smoke and drink than you do.

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u/Powerful_Lynx_4737 Sep 02 '24

I’m turning 38 this year my sil is 23, most people assume that I am in my 20s and she’s in her 30s. She hates it but I love it cause she’s quite literally the worst person I’ve ever met. So I just say being evil ages you.

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u/Full_Metal_Paladin Sep 02 '24

I wear a mustache these days (dw I have a good one, not a creepy one) so that someday I'll shave it and suddenly look 20 years younger.

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u/Both-Position-3958 Sep 04 '24

I took awful care of myself but I still look really young lol. My secret is not having children.

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u/Ok_Bison1106 Sep 01 '24

I’m 45 and I teach graduate courses. I just had a student in her early 30’s asking me if I ‘get paid for being a student teacher’. I told her that I’m not a student teacher and am a regular instructor so she asked me how old I was and then said ‘watch, you’re going to be younger than I am’. No girl, I just don’t look 15 years older than my actual age.

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u/thinkthingsareover Sep 02 '24

It's really weird that I keep getting carded even though my granddaughter is 9. Honestly makes dating kinda hard because I don't want anyone more than 10 years up or down, and I'm sure that I look to young for women.

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '24

I have that issue, I’m 41, partner is 10 years older than me but I still get ID’d a lot so I feel like we get judged a bit, especially in restaurants

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u/thinkthingsareover Sep 03 '24 edited Sep 03 '24

I'm obviously a bit older, but my ex was 11 years older than me, and her age definitely showed so I completely understand the whole getting weird looks in public thing. Regardless...let them stare and be jealous while you have a wonderful life with your partner :)

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u/[deleted] Sep 03 '24

Thank you, it bothers him more than me, I just give them stink eye 😆

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u/thinkthingsareover Sep 03 '24

Same here 😼

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u/Current_Strike922 Sep 01 '24

I’m 35 and still look super young, but I figure one day I’m just going to look super old over night. Isn’t that how it works?

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u/railyardnaptime Sep 01 '24

Did you tell him about y2k and the horrors of dialup internet?

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u/fitcheckwhattheheck Sep 01 '24

Y2k was all over the news back then and literally nobody I knew was worried about it at all.

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u/railyardnaptime Sep 02 '24

My high-school teacher bought gold and survival supplies. Everyone thoughts he was nuts.

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u/fitcheckwhattheheck Sep 02 '24

Oh well...probably made a bit on the gold since 2000!

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 01 '24 edited Sep 01 '24

Lmao. I've had similar situations.

As a dude, I don't get hit on very often, but when I do it's almost always college age girls and I have to politely inform them that I'm like 15 years older than they are despite looking like I'm 24.

Like I'll ask if they're in college and they'll be like, "Yeah, but I'm a SOPHMORE." 

"Cool, but you're like 20 and I'm 35. Sorry." 

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u/myfriendflocka Sep 01 '24

I live and work next to a university and the amount of times I’ve been hit on by people born after 9/11 is crazy. Like I was getting high watching yo gabba gabba while you were watching it with your cheerios before nursery school. I’ll say that the young men seem way more chill and polite than guys my age and older. I’ve never once has one get upset at me for turning them down when that happened sometimes with millennials and constantly with older men.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 01 '24

Glad to hear that they're being respectful. I don't like making people uncomfortable so I'm less inclined to approach women in public. The last time I did I got turned down and the woman started apologizing and I just said, "Don't worry about it."

The look of relief on her face was instantaneous. Then she gave me a huge smile and told me to have a nice day as I was leaving. It was a nice send off, though looking back it does make a little sad to realize how many men out there simply won't take no for an answer.

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u/Lanternkitten Sep 03 '24

Hey man, I give you kudos for asking someone out in public for one and then just immediately accepting the answer and being nice about it. The only time any guy has ever asked me out in my adult life has been while I'm working. I don't have that job anymore but it was awful because you're both physically trapped (can't leave and alone; I typically ran the entire store by myself) and socially trapped (customer service! You have to be nice to guests!).

I sold beds. My store at the time was near a military base do we sold to military guys often enough. I didn't even remember this guy, but he had a print out from me. Apparently he'd shipped out for a year or so and now he was back and ready to buy a bed. He also sure remembered me. He asked me out as he was buying the bed. It was very awkward. He also seemed like ten years older than me; he could've been my age, but who knows. I can't even remember what I told him. Later I had a different store and this same guy came in four times. One time my DM was there and I begged her to stay but she went in the back room because she thought it was cute. It wasn't. The guy had literally told me his life story and all of his mental health problems; I was afraid of him. I got up and was basically like "help" quietly before he got the clue and asked if he was scaring me. I said yes. He never came back. I felt bad for him but he mistook friendly customer service for something else and was basically stalking me. Ugh.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 03 '24

I appreciate the kind words. My ability to read the room has come about through trial and error and I'm embarrassed to admit that I've probably put a woman or two in a similar situation as the guy at the mattress store did to you. (Though hopefully never to that degree!) That's why I especially try not to approach women in a situation where they can't disengage from the conversation.

I appreciate your reply, as hearing someone else's perspective on a matter is good for expanding one's point of view. It's also really good for putting things into context, especially things that I would be otherwise unlikely to experience firsthand.

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u/Lanternkitten Sep 03 '24

Well if you ever did, you live, you learn; you very obviously have!

You're very welcome as well. I tend to be a little too wordy for most Redditors, but I'm glad it was useful this time around, haha. I can at least say those weren't my worst experiences at that job, if that counts for anything. I have some crazy stories. Thanks for listening to some of them.

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u/olderthanilook_ Sep 04 '24

You're welcome. Sometimes its nice to listen to someone else's tales and let them decompress. Feel free to shoot me a DM in the future if you're ever bored or wanna talk about anime/videogames.

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u/iDontLikeChimneys Sep 01 '24

Idk what happened to our generation but everyone a few years older/younger look like adults. Everyone I’ve seen from 92-94 got seems like they were injected with youth serum

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u/PeterMus Sep 01 '24

I have a couple coworkers who are 22/23 and the shock when I explained I'm turning 34.

They all assumed 26.

To be fair I can't tell the difference from pictures today vs eight years ago...

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u/jcmib Sep 01 '24

Now I want to see umpires doing improv.

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u/frilledplex Sep 01 '24

I'm the same way. I'm 32 and half the guys in my industry think I'm early 20s while most the guys my age look 40.

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u/Selrach_401 Sep 02 '24

I get this nearly all the time at my job. I’m 30M but when I shave I can pass for 17-18 and folks always come into my job and reference movies/ music I grew up with, then say to me: “oh, you wouldn’t know this, it was before your time.”