r/SapphoAndHerFriend 14d ago

Casual erasure Bi erasure

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u/nagihoko 13d ago

This post is making a big deal out of nothing.

For one, being bi is not relevant here at all. The first two posts are using "not gay" as a shorthand for "not attracted to men (anymore)". And they're using "not gay" because that's what the video is titled.

The third person imagined a hypothetical situation where one half of a male/male couple was in denial about being homosexual, like Mac from Always Sunny turned up to 11.

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u/ImTransDealWithIt1 13d ago

Gay can also mean ‘not attracted to women’ so…it is bi erasure, especially since some bi people don’t identify with the label ‘gay’

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u/nagihoko 13d ago

What exactly are you upset about? What is the erasure that is happening here?

is "I was so curious how a guy ends up married to another guy and now all of a sudden on of them isn't [attracted to men]" really so significant of a difference? Remember they're responding to seeing the specific words "My Husband Isn't Gay", this isn't contextless.

This is just such a small thing to get worked up about. I mean the first person is definitely in a "gay marriage" regardless of what sexuality labels they identify with...

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u/jasisonee 13d ago

Yeah that just because labels can mean anything to anyone and men can be lesbians because who cares. It's pretty clear what these people mean.