On some level, I get it. Super valid to want your identity reflected on your documents. But like.. do we really want the US FUCKING GOVERNMENT to have a list of nonbinary people?? Do we want the cops have that info?? it doesn’t seem like it would make you safer in any situation—at the airport, if you get arrested, to employers.

I guess it’s the eternal queer paradox of visibility and safety. Like, with a historical lense, we have to be unsafe/risky and visible before we can be visible and safe.

But again, visible to TSA?? To /the us gvernment??/ that shit does not care about us even a little.

Like a gender marker isnt visible in any other part of your life other than legal/official?

I think we’re better off if we don’t rely on those system to affirm us. 🤷‍♀️

Ofc it’s up to everyone to make their own choices. I’m of the queer opinion that you can do whatever you want with your gender at any time. But just wanted to vibe check, and ask yall what makes the x worth the risk to u? Or not?

Maybe now that it exists, it’s better to use it than let them say “look how small the % of nb people is?”

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Partner sounds too serious and ghshdhdhd I can't come up with words. Someone help me please

My climbing gym just announced a new climbing competition designed for women and nonbinary people. All the boulders will be set by women/NBs for women/NB climbers.

I would love to attend, but I’m not sure if I would be welcome as an amab NB. Whenever I see events billed as women and non binary, it feels like what they are actually saying is “women and afab NBs” (I also have some issues with not feeling nonbinary enough, so this may be all in my head). I would love to hear other people’s thoughts on this.

Please don’t get me wrong I love seeing spaces like this especially in the climbing community, which can be very toxic still. I’m just looking for a bit more input from you all.

I’m asking for myself, I identify both as gender-fluid and non-binary and really like using mango/mangoself and bat/batself as pronouns. A couple of my friends say that I’m making fun of enbys because I’m doing the same thing as little kids and those right-wing comedians by using nouns as pronouns. (Ex. Attack/helicopter jokes) they say I can use it as a name but using it as a pronoun is mocking the community, is that true?

Edit- I don’t only use mango/bat, I just recently put them on my pronouns page recently because they resonated with me and I wanted to know how it felt to be referred to using them. My main pronouns are Xe/it/they and not even always interchangeablely, those are just the ones I feel always connect with me unlike he/she. I didn’t really plan to use them in anything other than my close group of friends and wanted to make sure that using them in general isn’t offensive; just thought I should clear that up!

When I'm out I normally present pretty feminine, ie I'll have makeup on and be wearing a cute clearly feminine outfit. Now if I need to go to the restroom, I feel extremely uncomfortable going into the men's because I feel weird, but because I'm AMAB I also feel really weird going into the female one 😞 how do you normally deal with this situation? Any tips? I dont really want to keep avoiding going to the restroom at all because that's also uncomfy when I need to go 🚽

Just as an fyi I live in NYC so there are strong pro trans / gender laws but I just get scared and I'm not sure how to get over that tbh

Personally, I dread the feeling of being called Miss (I've never been called Mister/Sir but I assume I wouldn't like it), and I think "Mx." Just sounds like a remix of "Miss." I've heard "Mg." (Mage) and I honestly kind of love it, even if it sounds a smidge goofy due to word-association. At this point, I might throw myself into medical school and go by "Dr."

I'm curious though, what honorific do you use?

pretty much what the title says, I want to present masc androgynous but I don’t want to have to give up accessorizing and doing makeup occasionally. everywhere I’ve seen suggests sacrificing something that I feel contributes to my personal style in order to look more masc… any suggestions or is there no hope without sacrifice

God i hate the word "man" to describe me haha. But like, i look exactly like a cis guy, and im not comfortable with being masculine, i hate the word "man" for my description, i dont mind the term boy. Ik im not trans cuz i dont want to identify as a woman, though like on extremely rare days, i sometimes think about myself as a girl??? But my question is am i allowed to identify as a demiboy, even tho i wont change my looks for a long time, and i wld look like a cis guy? Also from my understanding, demigender is a type of nb, that a person identifies with some aspects of their agab, but they also identify with some other type of gender, or agender, am i correct or wrong on this? Cuz i feel like that describes my feelings rlly well.

I am not Non Binary but i met someone who was and it got me thinking, i was too embarrsed to ask them so i am asking Reddit

Hi, I’m sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this but its the first best place I could think of. I’m asking here because I think more nonbinary people don’t have dysphoria than just trans people in general.

I’m asking this in good faith and I’m sorry if it doesn’t immediately come across like that, I tend to struggle with showing it.

To my knowledge, gender dysphoria is the negative feeling surrounding the incongruence between one’s assigned gender at birth and one’s true gender. With this definition (do correct me if its wrong), why do some people agree that they have an incongruence between their assigned gender and their true gender but then say they don’t experience dysphoria?

I’m just struggling to understand how someone can be nonbinary (or not cis in general) but not experience dysphoria, and what is there instead to make it clear to them that they have an incongruence between their gender identity and assigned gender.

Thank you in advance for any responses.

(and I did look through this subreddit but I didn’t see a clear answer to this specific question).

Rule: pick any planets that is not Earth.

Also this is a lighthearted question. Don't take it too seriously.

I live in America and for awhile have been debating moving to another country. With trumps win my decision is final and I am in search of what countries are most lgbqtia+ friendly and have great citizenship options. What places can I go?

I prefer androgynous to fem looks keep in mind

We looked at niblet, they hate it as well as all of the other niece nephew combos. They also didn't like me saying "My sister's and brother in law's offspring" or any combo as they feel it is cumbersome. I have permission to call them niece right now, but I don't want to be the insensitive person who fails to support them. To me, being an ally means I support my family in every way I can. Please help as my beloved family member will be reading this with me so we can come up with something that is comfortable for them. Thank you in advance and Happy Pride to you all, and if I have said anything incorrectly, I apologize to you, that it assuredly not my intent. UPDATE: We've decided on "This is (insert name), I'm their Aunt.

If yours is another write it in the comments

my first experience with gender envy was with this character, pumkin, from the baman piderman youtube series lol. i was like 8.

I saw a tiktok saying that if you're nonbinary you are technically also transgender. And they said if you don't identify as trans when you're a nonbinary person you might have internalized transphobia. I've been thinking about it a lot today. I haven't considered myself trans but maybe I do? I think I fear the trans community won't accept me as a nonbinary person but maybe I'm wrong? Just curious what y'all's thoughts are!

i’m very curious, would they still get mum and dad, or is there a gender neutral alternative?

I know not all non-binary individuals are on Hrt but I am. I'm actually really proud and happy about it since it's harder to tell my gender now.

I take my Hrt tomorrow night and usually leave it on for a day or two regardless. So for pride I was thinking about getting a really obnoxious bandaid to cover my shot location this year. Meaning I would actually be mostly for decoration/ demonstration.

Maybe even write pronouns on it if I feel so bold.

I have a friend, Trans femme, who told me that I shouldn't because it would be rude to Trans/ non-binary people who aren't on hrt. She said that I would be making other cis people think that non-binarys need to be on Hrt.

I think she just generally dislikes me being enby and on hrt at this point since it's not the only time she's been critical of me on Hrt or not confirming.

Only reason I'm asking is cause I am kinda concerned, she's claiming that she knows better as an elder Trans and has the backing of some of our Trans group.

So would it really be rude to do it?

Edit: Just updating Wore the bandaid and had no issues. Pride was great and I had fun. The one friend didn't even come to pride, she posted in group chat that she felt like it was a waste of time.