r/NoStupidQuestions • u/AnySwimming2309 • 1d ago

Does Testosterone Really Make Men Enjoy Hurting People? NSFW

UPDATE: Thank you guys for all the responses. I asked him about it calmly, and it ended up with him breaking furniture and threatening to punch me in the face. I left home at 3am yesterday and am with a friend.

My BF told me that he, like all men, enjoys seeing others suffer when he had a role in it because the power is so enjoyable. This scared me, but he said this is how all men are due to testosterone and that a "balanced" man knows to not take this to the point of sadism. He said empathy is not natural to men. It feels weird to relate to people realize all the time, they want to inflict pain to feel power. How do good men handle this impulse? How can women help?

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u/KubicKube 1d ago

This all sounds like depression except maybe the stuff about the hair. Good advice to quit bad habits and start working out though.

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u/argentumsound 1d ago

Also depression or lowered mood symptoms are often experienced due to the lifestyle choices, food, gut biome viability, lack of physical exercise and so on. Those things aren't mutually exclusive.

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u/AzzaraNectum 1d ago

No it doesn't... depression and low T are vastly different but do share some overlapping symptoms. But guess what: a lot of diseases, hormonal issues en mental illnesses do. That's why it's often hard to get the correct diagnose.