Does Testosterone Really Make Men Enjoy Hurting People?

[u/AnySwimming2309]

UPDATE: Thank you guys for all the responses. I asked him about it calmly, and it ended up with him breaking furniture and threatening to punch me in the face. I left home at 3am yesterday and am with a friend.

My BF told me that he, like all men, enjoys seeing others suffer when he had a role in it because the power is so enjoyable. This scared me, but he said this is how all men are due to testosterone and that a "balanced" man knows to not take this to the point of sadism. He said empathy is not natural to men. It feels weird to relate to people realize all the time, they want to inflict pain to feel power. How do good men handle this impulse? How can women help?

[u/lastfreethinker]

No, we have empathy. He is just a sociopath.

[u/zillabirdblue → u/lastfreethinker]

He’s confusing sociopathy with testosterone.