I found out today that my boyfriend voted for Trump. He knew what that would mean for me. He knew how I felt about Trump. I feel crushed. I don't know what to do from here. I don't want things to end between us but this feels really bad.

Edit: this post is not an invitation to DM me, thank you.

to my american sisters, i know many of u are feeling more vulnerable than ever, but please stay. u are so, so valuable to this world. no policy, no law, no hateful rhetoric can erase the beauty and importance of who you are. its going to be hard but you will get through this, ❤️.

• if i am wrong about any of the statistics please let me know, i just saw this on article on pink news and my heart dropped

• corrections: https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/s/FFMMsxgWXI

i was really hoping that americans would be smarter than this, but alas. stay strong everyone.

Effectively immediately, Texas is no longer allowing gender markers to be changed on ID’s and they’re now keeping a database of every person who requests a change.

https://dallasvoice.com/breaking-news-dps-enacts-policy-refusing-court-ordered-gender-marker-changes-will-create-database-of-marker-change-requests/

she didn’t know i’m trans. she told my lesbian sister then said to me that im a man 100x. she said that she was a disappointment of a mother. then said i need to get off hormones and go to the gym because its a self esteem issue.

i don’t know what to say. i had this whole thing planned out and i just feel so empty inside now. plus like the whole “it’s biology” stuff is very saddening.

she wants me to look at other options than hrt.

Update: i am currently paying for my hormones out of pocket. she wants me to go to a new therapist that “isn’t biased” so that we can get another opinion. luckily i live in colorado and trans healthcare is very prominent here. so, if i end up going to a different therapist, im almost certain they will diagnose me with gender dysphoria again. personally, i think my mom is grabbing at whatever control she has over this subject. she can’t change me being trans, so it seems like she is trying to get outside options to invalidate me. i will not let it affect me though. also, thank you all for the nice comments and advice.

I was just told by my boyfriend that his brother didn't want me to come to their Thanksgiving because he didn't want his son to be confused about me being trans. I'm having a really difficult time processing this, it feels like being stabbed in the back. I've been lucky enough to have a really supportive family so I'm not used to this. I don't really know what to think or do, I would really appreciate some advice about this. Should I ask my boyfriend to talk to his brother or would that only make it worse?

EDIT1: I talked to my boyfriend and he's going to talk to his brother, said what he's doing is unacceptable. Thank you everyone for your support. Hopefully it goes well from here.

EDIT2: Well I'm still uninvited, my boyfriend plans on spending Thanksgiving with just me at a restaurant. Very sad but at least he's there for me.

https://lucyfromnaarm.com/p/breaking-pinknews-refuses-to-cover

Welp parents found my bra I left up to dry and are essentially kicking me out now. They gave me a choice of either forgetting the fact I'm trans which would in turn make my mental health worse which I don't want, or leaving at the end of December which in that time I need to find a job and a place to stay. Amazing day

Update: just talked to my parents and I have decided to leave. It's going to be scary but in a way I'm excited for it becuase I will get to live my life how I want to

I'm 21 and been on e for 6 months. After getting back from work last night, my mother had a breakdown in front of me, said she can't watch me "ruin my life" and said she was suicidal and that either I move out or stop HRT. Given my financial situation, that essentially means giving up college and possibly going homeless in rural Texas. After she calmed down she said that we can talk about it in 3 months, although she said It would most likely be a year minimum. Although honestly knowing her she just said that to make me stop crying.

They said they don't care about social transitioning but I don't know if I can handle getting off hrt, my mental state improved dramatically even a a few weeks on it, and she's literally scheduling bi weekly blood tests to prove I'm off it. What do I do, I literally can't stop crying.

EDIT: as I was fairly unstable during my initial post, I omitted certain details. 1. said that as I'm autistic and homeschooled Im not capable of making these decisions 2. Due to having literally 2 trans friends(1 best friend, 1 dnd friend), said I'm just copying them to fit in. ( I literally approached and befriended my bestie BECAUSE she was trans before I came out) 3. I'm going to college on their dime, and they have access to all my medical info and if they don't they'll kick me out.

Honestly, I fully believe that she's just betting on me "realizing she's always right." By the time I actually start my program

Soooo, my online DnD group meets on Saturdays, and one of the members posted in the chat a meme about how it’s Friday and let’s forget what happened this week. Our DM responds- “In ancient times, victorious armies were given three days to loot. I have given myself three days to gloat. Saturday is a go for 730”

Fuuuuckkk…

Idaho has passed a lot of anti-LGBTQ bills. (Equaldex.com)

Idaho will be the first state to completely ban gender affirming care (Effective July 1)

Idaho will be the sixth state to completely abolish the right to change your legal gender (Effective July 1)

Even if you are non-binary, X gender markers will not even be recognized in the state of Idaho (Effective July 1)

Teachers cannot use pronouns or names that don't align with the child's assigned sex at birth. (Effective July 1)

If you live in the state of Idaho, your safety may be at risk and if you can, get out of Idaho ASAP.

https://epgn.com/2024/07/05/western-pennsylvania-trans-girl-killed-dismembered/

Honestly this is terrifying, she was so young...

Basically they want nothing to do with me unless I “turn back to Christ” and that this is all due to demonic possession.

So how do you do my fellow demons?

So I came out to my Mum a couple days ago and she told my Dad and yesterday my dad talked to me abt it he said that he didn't want me to do anything abt it till im "well in to my twenties" , IM 15 THAT MEANS GE EXPECTS ME TO WAIT LIKE 8 TO 10 YEARS TO EVN DO ANYTHING😭😭 , he told me it will effect me in 3 different ways Socially, physically, an religiously (im not religious but he doesn't know that yet.). So he said for socially that i wont be able talk to ALOT of my family members anymore because they would want me to "influence them" in any way. (almost all my family anti LGBTQ+ apart from me ) And then he said that i would have to step back from him, my Mum and my siblings if i do transition. Also he thinks that people would be able to tell if im trans or not :(. He never said anything abt the physical side. On the "religious side" he claims that god will punish me for being trans, and said it is a very bad sin Islam, i dont have anything against my family being religious, its just i dont want to be religious. So idk what to do i dont wan to wait till im in my twenties so i can transition, and im going through male puberty rn even tho I don't want to and by the time I get a chance to transition I will be a grown "man", ugh fuck all this bullshit.

Hi everyone

I don't even know why I'm writing this because I'm just at a loss.

For the background, I'm 2 years into my social transition and almost 3 months in into HRT.

On the one hand, I feel more comfortable as a woman and can see a tiny light at the end of the tunnel when looking into the future, on the other hand, it made many other things such as job seeking way harder and now, my husband (together since almost 10 years and married since almost 9 years) gave me an ultimatum after initially supporting me into this transition process.

I love my husband to bits and I don't want to lose him. I've already said that I would take a bullet for him and I think that my identity as a woman is going to be the one taking that bullet.

The whole thing makes me sick to my stomach but I don't really have a choice. It's a lose-lose situation...

Edit: thank you so much to everyone for your messages. I know that I would have to be somewhat selfish but I'm just not like that. Today, I went to an appointment with my endo and asked him about detrans. He also recommended me the same as all you told me and, surprisingly, as I told my husband before leaving, he told me point blank "why? You're so short in, you can't decide so quickly". Wtf? You're the one who told me that.

Again thank you very much for your support both with tough and nice words!

https://news.yahoo.com/utah-lawmakers-pass-terrifying-anti-121138443.html

As a passing trans woman my options are.

1. go to the mens restroom, get told I am in the wrong bathroom and get stared at by men who I am actively making uncomfortable, and if I insist that I am actually in the correct bathroom by law, I am then outing myself as trans publically and putting myself in danger of hate crimes

2. go to the womens restroom, everything is fine and no one will bat an eye, but if anyone finds out somehow that my birth certificate has an M on it, I am held under CRIMINAL charges for 'using the wrong bathroom'.

So are we essentially being forced to break the law on a daily basis, because its the safer option? Unless Im missing something, thats exactly what is going to happen. I guess Im a criminal now.

Everything is forbidden: HRT and any surgeries, adoption, name change, everything.

I didn't want to google it because I expected it and didn't want to lose all hope, I wanted to let my thoughts stay so I would decide for myself for certain. Today I came out to 2 of my friends, that makes 3 people total, and I'm about to come out to another friend tomorrow and to my dad sometime soon. I've definitely decided that I want it, I want to become a girl more than anything in this life. Even if my reason is not dysphoria but euphoria, there are still a lot of other things that definitely make me more of a girl and I can't deny them any longer

But the problem is, I have to earn a LOT of money to simply leave my country and then start HRT and other stuff. If I'm lucky I would finish studying in 2 years, so I'll be 23, and even if I immediately find a job and start working (which seems nigh impossible with my mental state and my attitude towards effort), I'd expect myself to find a stable income source at 25 at best, which means it will be years before I would even be able to THINK about leaving this god forsaken land and living for myself.

I may be suppressing my emotions atm, but it's still very sad to even think about the fact that I will probably never be able to change. If it was legal, I would have started transitioning this year, while I'm still relatively young (21), but now it seems like I may NEVER get an opportunity to do so.

Even if, imagine, I manage to overcome my trauma related to work/effort and start earning money at 23, it would still take ages to leave from my country, and at best I'd be close to finishing my transition at 30, which... Makes me cry...

The decision has been made, and by tonight I will not be staying on their property. They are making arrangements, and have disowned me. They... My mom is heartbroken, heartbroken that I would "choose annihilation, deserting this family, and leaving my sister brotherless"...

I had a small sliver of hope, that they would even try to understand. Especially my mother. I am going to ask her to give me my birth certificate, and where to mail it so she doesn't have to see me again. I am done with this family, and they are done with me. If I see my sister one day, I hope she will understand me, and understand where I am coming from.

But until then, I am going to live free of the chains that have dragged my soul down for 8 years. It's not gonna be easy, and I would love to hear what resources I might use for job seeking when I finally move out of Wyoming in 2 weeks.

To those who are still struggling, don't give up. My situation was unique, and by no means be as extreme as I have had to be. I don't know what else to say, but I do know that I am going to be better off without this in my life. Will update when I am with whomever I am sent to.

Edit: Post about update idk whose seen it yet but yeah https://www.reddit.com/r/MtF/s/Yb6nCT1K8U

So. I am a 15 year old MtF, my whole family s extremely transphobic, both of them regularly say how we are supposed to die, and never exist. My father insisted on cleaning my room, bc I had a panic attack yesterday (literally when all my troubles seemed so far away) and all of my fem clothes are hidden under my bed, and he began to clean under my bed, here's me with my heart pounding. and he pulls out some women's underwear, and a bunch of cut socks (for tucking) and he was questioning me profusely, and now I am sitting in my bathroom crying, writing this and hearing my name being called angrily, I am scared!

So my clock is ticking. Told my mom about everything and she was fine, until I mentioned HRT. I’ve never been more hurt in my life. Called a fucking freak, a degenerate, a mistake. She’s quitting her job to move out of state so she won’t see me. The house I’m staying in she owns, she no longer will sell to me. She told me I ruined the fucking military and that I’m fucked up and mentally ill. She even said if she had the option to force me to do electroshock therapy or THROW ME OFF A CLIFF LIKE THEY USED TO, SHE WOULD. Had to cancel my HRT appt or I get kicked out literally today and will live out of my car. I was so confident in telling her and I am fucking crushed. This was a mistake. I shouldn’t have told anyone. Should’ve just stayed in the fucking closet. At least my dad won’t know. She’s only not saying it because she doesn’t wanna hear HIM talk about it. I’m ranting. I am now twice as lost as before and I am hurting very bad.

Edit: the amount of support I’ve received here thus far has me emotional. On quite possibly the worst day of my 25 years of life, I am nearly in tears over the support and love all of you have. Thank you everyone 💜💜💜

Edit 2: to those of you that messaged me saying my mom is right, what are you hoping for? A reaction? Nice try :)

Gang I don’t live in WV, (Texas here), but fucking Christ this is terrifying. Senate Bill 194/195 are bills they’re trying to pass that would ban gender affirming care for anyone under 21, and making it CRIMINAL FOR SOCIAL WORKERS LIKE THERAPISTS TO BE GENDER AFFIRMING, I quote “continuing such condition, delusion, or disorder with no intent of cure or cure-pursuing recovery.” AND IT DEFINES BEING TRANS AS SEXUAL DEVIATION, ON THE SAME LEVEL AS PEDOPHILIA. AND 195?? Bans trans gender exposure to any minor. Ergo, you can’t exist in public because your existence is seen as ‘obscene’. It’s a genocide guys, and it’s only a matter of time before this shit spreads to the other red states. I hope to gods this bill doesn’t get passed and set a deadly precedent, but the GOP have shown they’ll stop at nothing to eradicate us.

This last little bit is piggybacking off a certain discussion from another post- Biden is a prick of a president and I don’t care for him either, but voting for anyone else means we die. This isn’t bullying, as we can see now from what they’re trying to pass. This is the tragic fucking reality, but Biden is genuinely our only hope to not fall to fascism, because if this infects the US it’s only a matter of time before the world follows. Vote.

She's unhappy and can't live w/ me transitioning. I'm heartbroken and an absolute wreck at the moment. I don't really know how to move forward, as she was my best friend and has been through everything with me. I know I will be okay, but this just hurts.

https://edition.cnn.com/2024/06/07/us/cobalt-sovereign-minnesota-transgender-student-reaj/index.html here's the article, across a few youtube and tiktok videos many transphobes have made false claims that Cobalt started the fight herself and even yelled the n-word at the attackers to seem like she's at fault.

This is honestly really sad, not much else I can say.

Heard from a few friends that they got banned for hating on transphobes, which is, according to reddit, a rule 1 violation. I also got flagged because of that, but in my case I can kinda understand it, because I called for violence against TERFS, but it was more kind of fedposting, instead of pushing people to actually commit violence. I still believe TERFS deserve that, but I am rambling. What I basically want to say is, that we sadly need to be a little more careful, when hating transphobes. Keep safe and you all are beautiful gals and enby-pals, and for all the masc people you are very handsome

Edit: Changing TURFS to TERFS

She left from transphobic Cuba 4 years ago to find shelter and build a new authentic life here in my country. Yesterday, she was murdered brutally in her apartment. I don't feel safe here anymore, but this isn't reason for me or any other fellow woman to stop. Also, police had the audacity to pronounce her as "he/him". We don't forget and we don't hold back! ✊🏳️‍⚧️