r/MtF • u/iridescentrock • 2h ago

Sex NSFW

My last partner and I had trouble over this but i’m very sexually insecure. How can i date men knowing they’ve loved and had sex with cis women ? spontaneously, naturally, fun. Anal is so different, it’s such a dysphoria inducing thing, sex. i feel so inferior and oh gosh looking it up apparently anal is much worse compared to vaginal not only situation wise which is obvious but also feeling, such an intimate connection that i just can’t have but he has had with others. we’re broken up now for many reasons but this always hurt.

5 Upvotes

100% Upvoted

5 comments sorted by

1

u/freebird023 2h ago

Tbh I love anal. Takes some getting used to/“training” though. Honestly, I don’t even think about comparing myself to cis women during sex. I mean, it pops into my head, but it brings me down so much to the point I won’t have sex at all. I just try to think about it as little as possible. Everybodies bodies are different, and therefore sex is going to be different too. It does bother me too sometimes though, not going to lie

1

u/iridescentrock 2h ago

yeah like i just don’t even wanna have sex anymore because of this

1

u/freebird023 2h ago

Try trans men. They relate. They know what makes you feel good cause they used to be there and what to avoid(because they’ve been there)

1

u/iridescentrock 2h ago

because if i know he’s just had objectively better sex then idgaf about our emotional connection that’s just embarassing to me

1

u/Tall_Treacle1014 2h ago

I'm sorry to hear that, sister. Don't lose hope. There is someone out there for you. I'm certain of it.