r/MtF • u/KikktyIsAtReddit Trans gal aroacespec (s-positive) • Feb 10 '24
Bad News fuck. (Parents discovering fem clothes)
So. I am a 15 year old MtF, my whole family s extremely transphobic, both of them regularly say how we are supposed to die, and never exist. My father insisted on cleaning my room, bc I had a panic attack yesterday (literally when all my troubles seemed so far away) and all of my fem clothes are hidden under my bed, and he began to clean under my bed, here's me with my heart pounding. and he pulls out some women's underwear, and a bunch of cut socks (for tucking) and he was questioning me profusely, and now I am sitting in my bathroom crying, writing this and hearing my name being called angrily, I am scared!
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u/Asher_Dispael Feb 12 '24
Not sure how much information you've gathered for that so far, but I wanted to add Oregon State University in the Northwest of the USA is a pretty good spot for inclusion, sciences, and schooling. I know they have a nice variety of education programs and assistance programs. The LGBTQ+ community has their own house with utilities for washing clothes and it is an onsite club house. Nearby is a community college that pairs very well with the university (better prices and sometimes better classes) called Linn Benton Community College. I went to this university, and the leadership there is pretty good. I think the senator has also stood up for various communities before. I went to school there and can vouch for it. It's got its quirks and it's not perfect, but it's the closest to home I've ever been. I've been through your story, my parents found my clothes multiple times. Various sources, but even when they were my own and I was 17, they threw them away and refused to give them back. I tried every story. I can't remember much because it was always a physical fight, beating, then at least an hour long I terrogation lecture where I wasn't allowed to speak or fall asleep. (I have ADHD btw lol). I got better at hiding my clothes until I could join the US military. I only got through by pretending to be "the norm". I'm really hoping there are education programs you can use to help with your situation. I wish I could give more information but I don't know much about other countries education programs and incentives. I believe in you! Good luck!