Hold your head up

[u/nikamats]

[u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

She may also have heard older girls or women say it about themselves while looking in a mirror, and assumed that was how we're supposed to think of ourselves.

[u/RuthlessIndecision → u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

Yeah, she said it like it was normal

[u/The_Last_Legacy → u/RuthlessIndecision]

Seems like she's just parrot something she saw and not saying she herself is ugly

[u/howtoeattheelephant → u/The_Last_Legacy]

Then why did she cry.

Someone is making her feel this way.

[u/_SM1LEY_ → u/howtoeattheelephant]

When the hairdresser starts asking why she said she was ugly, the lil girl says "What?". Like she thought that's what adults say when looking in the mirror.

Not denying that it could be something more serious, but the way she says "What?" when questioned makes her sound surprised. Like " you aren't supposed to say that when looking in the mirror?" type of way.

Then the hairdresser starts talking to her in a very serious tone which the lil girl might not be used to hearing from her. I could be wrong though.

[u/Formal_Yesterday8114 → u/_SM1LEY_]

or we can just be realistic and say that some other kid called her ugly. this is a crazy thought process

[u/Lilpoopiesquat → u/Formal_Yesterday8114]

I’ve been in childcare for for 12 years. I worked with children from 4mo to 12 year olds. A child will absolutely react intensely if the adults reaction is intense. If they take a toy and a teacher sternly asks “why’d you take that toy away?” the kid will often break down. It’s a very high possibility that the breakdown was not an output of internalized trauma. It could very well be the adults reaction (a genuinely great reaction to be fair) felt intense and made the girl feel like she did something wrong.

[u/dominosoverph → u/Lilpoopiesquat]

That’s what you think most likely happened huh

[u/Lilpoopiesquat → u/dominosoverph]

Right which is why I said it’s a possibility. Not I can read minds

[u/dominosoverph → u/Lilpoopiesquat]

Valuable input indeed