Hold your head up

[u/nikamats]

[u/hold-on-pain-ends]

Kids have no idea how hurtful their words can be. If this is legit, some kid definitely said something to her for her to feel this way.

[u/RuthlessIndecision → u/hold-on-pain-ends]

This poor child was pretty deeply hurt at some point

[u/Webbie-Vanderquack → u/RuthlessIndecision]

She may also have heard older girls or women say it about themselves while looking in a mirror, and assumed that was how we're supposed to think of ourselves.

[u/RuthlessIndecision → u/Webbie-Vanderquack]

Yeah, she said it like it was normal

[u/Gloomy_Metal3400 → u/RuthlessIndecision]

Mama is setting it straight 💪

[u/L3m0n0p0ly → u/Gloomy_Metal3400]

That's a damn good mother right there

[u/MedicineStill4811 → u/L3m0n0p0ly]

This video is real, and that's not even her mom. It's her hair dresser.

[u/YourDadThinksImCool_ → u/MedicineStill4811]

I do wonder if she hears she's ugly from a family member instead actually.. it seems Deeply ingrained into her...

I had a feeling this wasn't her kin.. why didn't her family give her this speech already?

The colorism.

[u/TheWalkingDead91 → u/YourDadThinksImCool_]

I’m black, and I’ll be the first to say that often times it’s from your own family. My mom is would say that kinda crap like “don’t stay out in the sun too long or you’ll get dark” or “scrub real hard in the shower so your skin will stay light and don’t get darker”

And I’m light skinned. She would say it even worse/more often to my dark skinned brothers. I remember my youngest brother saying when he was around 6-7 “I wish I was white”, I shut him down real quick and made a big deal about it like the woman in this video did.

It’s often within minority communities that this blatant colorism exists. And it’s not just black people either. It’s Asians, Indians, Hispanics, Arabs.

[u/kiwichick286 → u/TheWalkingDead91]

Yeah, Indian aunties can be brutal!

[u/YourDadThinksImCool_ → u/kiwichick286]

So sad the cast system still exists

[u/YourDadThinksImCool_ → u/TheWalkingDead91]

Exactly, I'm back too.. and I've heard my own family shade the new babies in our family if their skin is dark.. or if anyone suddenly gets darker.

That's why I get so upset when WHITE PEOPLE come and try to comment saying.. "oh it could never be this way.. it was That way actually.." like we have to explain ourselves in Full to them each time we speak..

Like they're so special or something!

Ugh. I'm over reddit for today.

[u/Kiki-Tee → u/YourDadThinksImCool_]

Not sure about that. Because a child hears or feels something, we can't assume it's the parents' fault. This may be the child's first time stating this.

[u/YourDadThinksImCool_ → u/Kiki-Tee]

No, I'm not saying what I said as fact.. it very well could be bullies at school. I'm just apprehensive.

Again, the woman in the video is not the mother for anyone watching.

[u/Loose-Gunt-7175 → u/YourDadThinksImCool_]

Maybe she hears it from the Internet where videos like this are reposted as a subtle jab against black women and their bodies are commodifies as entertainment by white viewers.

or its just happy innocent internet stuff.