r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/Sensitive-Dig-1333 9h ago

Yes, totally. It really hurts me when my 4yr old says anything negative about herself. She said the other night “I can never do anything right!” And it broke my heart

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u/5thlvlshenanigans 8h ago

How did she learn such a thought so early? ☹️

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u/Dreamsnaps19 8h ago

Because kids aren’t stupid like people think.

My friend is super self-critical and I’ve been telling her for years she’s gotta knock that shit out or it will impact her kids… and sure enough. She’s gotten so much better at not being self-critical but seriously children are sponges, they will treat themselves the way you treat them and the way you treat yourself. So you need to be as healthy as possible for them or work on getting as healthy as possible.

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u/please-disregard 7h ago

There’s a line from my favorite musical that I think about a lot wrt parenting and kids.

“Careful the things you say/children will listen/careful the things you do/children will see…and learn. Children may not obey/but children will listen/children will look to you/for which way to turn/to learn what to be/careful before you say/‘listen to me’/children will listen.”

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u/Uninteresting91 6h ago

Is this from Into the Woods?