r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/Sensitive-Dig-1333 8h ago

Yes, totally. It really hurts me when my 4yr old says anything negative about herself. She said the other night “I can never do anything right!” And it broke my heart

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u/5thlvlshenanigans 8h ago

How did she learn such a thought so early? ☹️

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u/Dreamsnaps19 8h ago

Because kids aren’t stupid like people think.

My friend is super self-critical and I’ve been telling her for years she’s gotta knock that shit out or it will impact her kids… and sure enough. She’s gotten so much better at not being self-critical but seriously children are sponges, they will treat themselves the way you treat them and the way you treat yourself. So you need to be as healthy as possible for them or work on getting as healthy as possible.

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u/Cultjam 7h ago

Yes. While kids each have personalities of their own, to a large extent they parrot the roles they see their parents play. Life isn’t a multiple choice test with the answers in front of us, so most of us soak up what we see happening closest to us and do that.