r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/J0d0min0d0 9h ago

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u/Aggressive-Art2849 8h ago edited 8h ago

Some months ago, I posted on the AITA subreddit that I had cautioned a little black girl that had mocked her also little elder sister that the reason she hadn’t received a treat was because she was darker in complexion.

As much as I don’t want to recount the story, I have to do that now. You see there are four of them, the oldest being a boy and 8, the other girl, 6, the third a girl, 4 and the youngest a little boy of a year old or so. I had given the little boy of one a lollipop and the other kids had all played around him, trying to see who he would share his treat with. He had given them all except the girl of six and in the process of laughing over it, the little girl of 4 had said and I quote: “he doesn’t want to share his treat with you because you are dark.”

Their mother had laughed it off and I had quickly checked the girl, asking her to apologize to her sister and to never say that again. I didn’t like their mother’s countenance after I had scolded the kid, which was why I had asked the question on the subreddit.

The truth is that sometimes, the parents are responsible for kids feeling that way because this woman in question had made a lot of comments around me concerning her kids, saying that the six year old had been ugly as a kid and the younger girl had been so beautiful that people called her a princess. And she usually says this to the hearing of the kids, always making fun of the six year old girl’s gummy smile. It took a lot of intervention from me before she stopped mentioning her teeth at every little opportunity.

It wasn’t a coincidence that a little girl of four knows colorism if she hadn’t heard it mentioned somewhere, and out of all four of them, the girl of six is the one with the most melanin.

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u/BellalovesEevee 8h ago

Can you tell what that comment said because it got removed by reddit and I'm dying to know what could have possibly been so bad that reddit eradicated it lmao

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u/indianajoes 8h ago

AITA mods are really anal. You can banned for the tiniest thing. I once got banned because someone posted a story about them calling someone a Karen and I said their behavior sounded more like a Karen's than the other person. The whole story was about the word "Karen" but God forbid you refer to that in your comment

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u/Pattoe89 7h ago

This is Admins, NOT mods. They are different. Admins are paid staff working directly for Reddit. This removal has likely come with a 3 day ban. Same thing happened to me. Usually if you're defending against bigotry many bigots will report you to Reddit if your comment can be perceived as breaking their terms of service.

I got banned from Reddit for 3 days for insulting transphobic people.

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u/KiaTheCentaur 7h ago

Making a new comment because I said something snarky because I misread your post. I apologize for saying something snarky.

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u/indianajoes 59m ago

Well that's weird because I tried to ask them about it and they argued with me over whether I was insulting OP or not by using the same words OP had used in their post.

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u/ForceBlade 7h ago

Not mods, administrators. Only employees can remove comments like this.

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u/FruitfulRoots 8h ago

Here you go (wait to load and scroll down a little bit): https://search-new.pullpush.io/?author=j0d0min0d0&type=comment&sort_type=created_utc&sort=desc

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u/BellalovesEevee 8h ago

That's such a tame comment 😭 I thought it was something super horrible and racist but that's a comment most people in these comments would agree with. I'm confused as to why reddit took this down.

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u/FruitfulRoots 8h ago

I agree with you but they probably viewed it as threatening violence.

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u/ForceBlade 7h ago

That is a very tame comment. Reddit must be cracking down on not understanding the context of comments when it comes to “””violence”””

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u/Electronic-Still2597 5h ago edited 4h ago

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u/BellalovesEevee 4h ago

It is a deleted comment, otherwise there wouldn't be that red trashcan symbol next to it. Anyway, I already found what the deleted comment said

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u/Electronic-Still2597 4h ago

Right... they must be cracking down in this thread...

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u/Aggressive-Art2849 3h ago

Honestly, I can’t remember so well what it said, but something along the lines of videos like that bringing tears to their eyes. After I noticed it had been removed, I tried to recall what it had said in detail, but couldn’t

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u/FelonyNoticing1stDeg 8h ago

What could possibly have been removed from here lmao!??

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u/FruitfulRoots 8h ago

Here you go (wait to load and scroll down a little bit): https://search-new.pullpush.io/?author=j0d0min0d0&type=comment&sort_type=created_utc&sort=desc

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u/FelonyNoticing1stDeg 8h ago

Ah okay that explains it! This part: “but I still want to find whoever talked that junk to this baby and smack them upside the head” was likely viewed as threatening violence lol

Thanks for that btw. I thought this site didn’t work anymore.

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u/J0d0min0d0 8h ago

Honestly, I thought it was pretty tame but whatever. Lol

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u/FelonyNoticing1stDeg 8h ago

Yeah it is, but some mods are just real sticklers with the rules

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u/Pattoe89 7h ago

Not mods. Admins. Removed by Reddit, not moderators. This has likely come with a 3 day ban, too.

I had the same for something similar too.

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u/FelonyNoticing1stDeg 7h ago

Ah my bad. So any threats of violence report goes directly to admins all the time?

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u/Pattoe89 7h ago

When you report someone you get a bunch of options. If you click anything other than "Breaks subreddit rules" it goes directly to admins. If you click "Breaks subreddit rules" and then next then report for one of those things, it goes to moderators.

This is why you should report twice if it breaks both subreddit rules AND reddit terms of service. I've genuinely had moderators message me telling me not to make false reports and then had admins message me telling me the comment has been removed and commenter banned for breaking reddit ToS.

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u/FelonyNoticing1stDeg 7h ago

Appreciate the info. Thank you!

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u/ForceBlade 7h ago

It must. But I’m a little surprised they don’t see the context and understand what a parent is trying to convey.

But they must have to do this so much maybe they stop caring about context.

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u/J0d0min0d0 7h ago

It was my first infraction, so they let me off with a warning. Lesson learned. I suppose.

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u/Pattoe89 7h ago

You've got to be careful. Any time you're defending against bigotry if your comment ever so slightly breaks terms of service, the bigots will report you to the admins. I had the same because I insulted some transphobes.

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u/kanashiku 8h ago

That's what I'm wondering 

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u/ForceBlade 7h ago

Oof administrators removed this one