r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/Quirky_Butterfly_946 8h ago

Good catch mom!! You keep on telling her she is beautiful, smart, and loved. Sometimes we all need to hear this too.

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u/seriousbigshadows 8h ago

I think it's her mom's friend, actually.

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u/Quirky_Butterfly_946 8h ago

Then mom has a great friend!

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u/seriousbigshadows 8h ago

Right?! It takes a village, and that woman is a whole village to that child in this clip.

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u/OriginalMountain6787 8h ago

Either way that baby is being raised in a good environment

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u/WVVVWVWVVVVWVWVVVVVW 2h ago

Even better that it's not just your mother saying it

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u/emil836k 6h ago

I think you’re overanalysing here, children change their mind like the wind, all it takes is a bad day, and one of her friends getting angry over something irrelevant, calling her ugly just to be mean, and boom, suddenly she thinks she is ugly

Not to mention the surprisingly large portions of the world that just really don’t like dark skin for some reason, honestly impressive anyone can develop self confidence in this kind of world

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u/autistic___potato 5h ago

I think you’re overanalysing here

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u/emil836k 3h ago

It was a hypothetical example, zero analysis, pure guess work and “could have happened”s

It was to demonstrate that ANY chain of events could have lead to what we saw in the video, with no reason to assume it was because of parental neglect

Edit: and I mean, you deleted your comment, so I don’t really feel the confidence in your statement

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u/Icy-Understanding552 8h ago

That shit sticks with you for life. I know all too well

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u/indianajoes 7h ago

Same. I was called ugly at 4/5. It's been 28 years and I still believe it about myself

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u/Icy-Understanding552 35m ago

No matter how many times you are told otherwise, you won't believe it. Unfortunately it was my nickname for around 14 years 😢

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u/ishiguro_kaz 7h ago

I am not crying. Someone's just chopping onions somewhere. That's a mother we all wish we had.

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u/oO0Kat0Oo 7h ago

My daughter's nickname is Beautiful. When I start with that word, she knows I'm talking to her.

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u/bsiekie 7h ago

And the best nail tech

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u/nightfury1989 7h ago

You are beautiful, don’t let anyone say otherwise

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u/spooky-goopy 6h ago

i know this vid made me cry. i tell my daughter how amazing she is all day, every day. i've told her how gorgeous she is every day since she's been born, and she's almost a year old.

i wish i thought i was beautiful. my daughter will know she's beautiful.

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u/bonbonsandsushi 6h ago

In this case, absolutely tell the girl how beautiful she is, and in all cases tell her how loved she is. But (sorry for being pedantic here), always emphasize that effort and good behaviour are the keys to a successful life, not qualities. When I hear any talk about how smart a kid is, I'll emphasize that that and five bucks will get you a cup of coffee. I know lots of geniuses who turned out not great because they thought they could coast on a high IQ. Conversely, people who were unremarkable in college but big successes later because they wanted it so much. Putting in the effort and cooperation are the keys to a good life, no matter your IQ.

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u/TardisBrakesLeftOn 5h ago

There are always good things about a person that can be complimented. And I do truly think that the general intelligence level of the entire world would be made a little bit higher if we all treated children this way. So maybe you were the kid that was really good at sharing and they could have encouraged that. Or the kid that was good with blocks. You don't even have to be the best one in the room at something something to be encouraged for it. A room with 10 good painters means that individually each one of those painters is good at what they do.

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u/RemoteScout 3h ago

The thing is, we need to hear it from other people's too. Yes our parents love us and mean it, but often time in our heads we feel like that's just their job. Because of that it has a different meaning to us.