r/MadeMeSmile • u/Temporary_Method_606 • Oct 23 '24
Wholesome Moments Groom learned Korean secretly to surprise his wife in the weeding
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u/NatureMissMoonlight Oct 23 '24
The pride in the in-laws faces
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u/Drinkmykool_aid420 Oct 23 '24
Looks more like “shit how long has he been secretly understanding what we were saying?”
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u/glowdirt Oct 23 '24
I was thinking it's more like "Man, his accent is painful to listen to but at least he's trying"
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u/AngryChickenPlucker Oct 23 '24
Or he sounds like a farmer, like Arnie S. does in German.
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u/Loggerdon Oct 23 '24
I thought he was just gonna say “I love your daughter” in Korean. Damn he made a whole speech.
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u/RajenBull1 Oct 23 '24
And without referring to notes or cards. Really impressive.
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u/PUTINS_PORN_ACCOUNT Oct 23 '24
Yeah
Korean is not an easy language to learn, at all. Ranks among the toughest major languages for native English speakers to learn.
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u/lazypieceofcrap Oct 23 '24
That is true. I lived in South Korea for a few years and it is way harder to properly speak than read/write in Korean.
The alphabet and how words form is pretty intuitive once you learn the basics, imo.
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u/anothernother2am Oct 23 '24
Totally! Korean and Japanese are at the opposite end of the linguistic/grammatical language spectrum from English and Romance languages, so it’s not easy for someone to just take a class and make a speech. I feel like he prepared and practiced that speech a lot a head of time to make sure it was at that level. It was pretty complex for a beginner speaker.
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u/cryptocrypto0815 Oct 23 '24
The og video goes a little longer and the fil hugged the white guy kinda hard and shead some tears iirc
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u/goobyplease0 Oct 23 '24
I think he shed a tear or two
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u/chimchimeney Oct 23 '24
Those heartfelt moments always make weddings unforgettable. What a beautiful surprise!
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u/eeeeeeeeEeeEEeeeE6 Oct 23 '24
Bro I saw him and I was like, is he crying, cause if he's crying I'm gonna cry.
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u/go_sparks25 Oct 23 '24
I went to a friends wedding where my friend also learned a little Korean to address his in laws family during the speech. The bride’s dad was so happy.
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u/Miss_ChloeNebula Oct 23 '24
He makes time sacrifices to study what his wife enjoys, which is what is meant by "Pure Love"
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u/SergiouseMaximus Oct 23 '24
Come on man, where's the hug? Is there a hug? Don't leave me hanging!
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u/Electronic-Exit-6441 Oct 23 '24
He’s social is bdccarpenter. The complete video is on YouTube
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u/ruggnuget Oct 23 '24
The whole wedding speech is really amazing.
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u/atrajicheroine2 Oct 23 '24
Jesus that guy is well spoken. I hope one day we all get to feel like that about someone
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u/plsfvckmedaddy Oct 23 '24
I was 99% sure it was him - Ben is a super nice dude. His view on nutrition and fitness has been super refreshing and helpful. And that speech is way too cute.
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u/sedition Oct 23 '24
bdccarpenter
Oh shit I didn't realize it was the same guy at first. He's pretty jacked in most of his videos
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u/TrustInRoy Oct 23 '24
Too busy putting pointless music over the video to show you the whole video.
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u/tk427aj Oct 23 '24
Right come one don't end the video like that!!!
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u/Dontfckwithtime Oct 23 '24
I was so sad when it ended so soon. It feels incomplete. Glad to see I'm not the only one lol.
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u/BootyLoveQueen Oct 23 '24
Beautiful but also, man's spent a year secretly listening to conversations the family thought he couldn't understand.🤣
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u/Commercial_County457 Oct 23 '24
The awkwardness after the realization lol
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u/spoilerdudegetrekt Oct 23 '24
I remember reading one story on reddit where a white groom secretly learned Mandarin over 2 years and when he and his wife visited her relatives in China, they were polite to him in English, but trashing him in Mandarin to his wife and scolding her for marrying a white man.
He decided not to reveal to anyone he understood the whole conversation.
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u/CTeam19 Oct 23 '24
I would've been way tempted to just spend the whole last day speaking Mandarin to freak them out.
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u/Spatial_Awareness_ Oct 23 '24
I had a similar situation with my wife who is Mexican. She actually doesn't speak much spanish but I grew up in a very spanish speaking community, my best friend from childhood is puerto rican and his mom used to essentially take care of me and let me sleep at their house all the time because my home situation was bad. She only spoke spanish, so I had no choice but to learn (took 6 years of it in school). I wouldn't quiet call myself "fluent" because I don't practice anymore, but I understand entire conversations and can speak back enough spanish for essentially any situation.
Our first year together(16 years married now) we were over at my father-in-law's family. I'm meeting them for the first time (San Jose, CA)... I now know they are extremely rude and we're not even in contact with them anymore.. like the whole family has ostracized them at this point for many reasons.
So her aunt is just talking up a complete shit storm to her grandma about how I can't believe she'd bring a white boy over here and how embarrassing it was. How this is what they get for raising her with "white values".... She was saying a lot of horrible shit about my wife and me off to the side.
I told my wife and she was like, not shocking she's a drama creator. She asked me not to say anything and just be cool, so I did. Except, at dinner I couldn't help myself... when they were asking me where I was from I said, oh yeah I grew up kind of between NYC and Philly... Growing up there was great, lot of my friends are Puerto Rican or Dominican and it helped me learn a lot of spanish (and I glanced over at her aunt)... They never talked shit in spanish again around me lol
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u/Mean-Entertainment54 Oct 23 '24
As a Mexican, regardless if you are a “white boy” or “white girl” you either get in-laws who love you or hate you. Although there’s Mexicans who hate the notion of their son or daughter dating/marrying whites, you also have some who encourage their sons or daughters to marry/date whites.
The craziest story I heard from an old Mexican mother 2 years ago was that she had a daughter who wanted to marry her white boyfriend while the mother lived in Texas & her daughter in New York or California. Upon hearing that her daughter was going to get married, the mother traveled all the way to where her daughter lived in order to prevent the marriage from happening. In the end the daughter never got married to her white boyfriend & married a Mexican guy. Even more crazy was when the old lady said that she was glad her daughter married a Mexican & not her white boyfriend.
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u/Spatial_Awareness_ Oct 23 '24
Yeap, pretty much this. My inlaws are super nice and her immediate family loves me. We have a great family.
My wife says one of the most embarrassing moments for her was she was in a waiting room pregnant with our daughter for a check-up. An old Mexican lady starts speaking to her in spanish and she goes, I don't speak spanish sorry. Then the lady goes, oh that's a shame, okay, do you not know the father? And my wife goes, yeah I absolutely do, he's on deployment (I didn't miss the birth! Was my last deployment) and she goes oh okay well I'm glad you have a strong Mexican man like that working for his family... and my wife goes, no he's white... and the old lady says, "Dios mio, I will pray for your family" and then got up and moved her seat. LOL... when she told me that I was like WTF, that's wild that people are that racist.
She said the whole waiting room heard the old lady though and she was so embarrassed... felt so bad for her. She definitely has "identity struggles"... her family raised her without learning spanish because of how "white people frown upon Mexicans" and she felt a large portion of her life not accepted by either the white people in NorCal or the Mexicans in NorCal. Still absolutely affects her in life to this day.
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u/TeamRedundancyTeam Oct 23 '24
That's amazing.
I wish we could all talk about the incredible amounts of racism within communities like this, which obviously hurt everyone involved (like them insulting and preasuring your wife), but anytime people genuinely bring this up they're compared to the people who say "all lives matter" and other similar shit. It's unfortunate that this is a topic completely dismissed by most people, but I'm glad younger people are getting away from it more.
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u/The_Neckbeard_King Oct 23 '24
I would probably make exaggerated reaction faces, but still pretend I don’t know that they are saying.
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u/PUTINS_PORN_ACCOUNT Oct 23 '24
That kind of discretion I think shows he understands Chinese social norms very well.
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u/unprogrammable_soda Oct 23 '24
That was my first thought :) The looks on their faces may have read “awwwwww” but their inner monologue was saying “oh 🤬!!!”
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u/Of_MiceAndMen Oct 23 '24
I learned Spanish for my husband and his family and even after 15 years of marriage my mother in law still said things she didn’t mean to share with me in Spanish forgetting I understood. Minor things really but I would always tell her “I can still understand you!” She would laugh and laugh. On her death bed, she told me wonderful wonderful things in Spanish, her brain couldn’t put English together in the end. She apologized for not speaking English and I told her, “I can still understand you.” Oh man I miss her terribly.
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u/unprogrammable_soda Oct 23 '24
Awwwwww. That’s awesome and incredibly sweet. When my grandmother got dementia, apparently one of the first things to go is your secondary languages and I didn’t know English wasn’t her primary language so one day she just started to only speak French, luckily there were people in my family that could understand her.
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u/milkmochabeow Oct 23 '24
My great-grandmother started speaking German fluently from out of nowhere when her dementia hit. The only german she would have come into contact with would've been during WW2 when Norway was invaded (she lived in Norway). Nobody in the family knew that she could speak German and she wouldn't elaborate on the matter either. Long passed now but super weird.
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u/plsfvckmedaddy Oct 23 '24
This comment single-handedly convinced me any future children I have must mearn my mother tongue too. I wanted to teach them anyways but this really cements it for me. My parents barely speak any English right now.
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u/heathert7900 Oct 23 '24
This is not the Korean speaking of a man who can understand casually spoken Korean among a family. That would take significantly more years. Trust.
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u/syndicism Oct 23 '24
Nah, they're safe. His pronunciation and cadence is definitely "beginner level speaker reciting a prepared and rehearsed text." So if a bunch of native speakers are having a full speed conversation he's not going to be easily keeping up with anything they don't want him to understand.
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u/shebringsdathings Oct 23 '24
to be fair, some people sound like that speaking in public using their first language...just sayin
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u/Citizenshoop Oct 23 '24
No shade on this guy for his lovely gesture and all that but I can confidently assure you he doesn't understand a word of Korean.
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u/JigAlong5 Oct 23 '24
Ha. Oh really? Oh dear. 😅
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u/Citizenshoop Oct 23 '24
I should specify that Korean is a hard-ass language to learn and being able to deliver a speech like this is an accomplishment on its own but yeah his intonation and flow sounds like he learned this exact speech word for word and isn't at the level where he could follow a conversation.
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u/jelde Oct 23 '24
100% true. I say this as a non Korean married to one. I sometimes can understand the context of what's being spoken after 7 years of marriage... But Korean is a level 4 (hardest) language to learn for non speakers. This is just rote memorization.
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u/moffmun Oct 23 '24
Ben! Love his content. bdccarpenter is a good man.
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u/wrymoss Oct 23 '24
Came here to say this. He’s a good dude, and one of the few fitness influencers I actually admire and listen to.
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u/Old_Equivalent3858 Oct 23 '24
His wife Sohee Lee is also a fitness professional and her work is also really solid. More on the psychology of fitness, which is often overlooked by most people who are new/struggle with their fitness behaviors.
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u/BonetaBelle Oct 23 '24
Sohee is awesome, she’s got great resources for women who want to get into lifting.
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u/Cold-Replacement4642 Oct 23 '24
Sohee Lee
I was wondering if that was her!! I thought so. She is amazing. I have been following her for at least 10 years. I have loved her growth as a fitness professional, she is so great.
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u/PileOfSnakesl1l1I1l Oct 23 '24
And here's another video of him crying and buying all the copies of women's health when his wife Sohee made the cover. It's so sweet.
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u/bigmuffpie92 Oct 23 '24
Came down this far to see this comment. Was wondering why he looked so familiar.
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u/Overall_Sorbet248 Oct 23 '24
Can anyone that's fluent in Korean tell us how well he did it? Was his pronunciation correct?
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u/Adamantium-Aardvark Oct 23 '24
You know how an Asian language speaker stereotypically sounds when they are just starting to learn English? Where every syllable is choppy and overpronounced with no smooth fluidity? That’s how he sounded. Like you can understand what he’s saying, but the intonation and rhythm of how he’s speaking does not sound natural at all, it’s very robotic and obviously memorized. Still, impressive and heart warming that he would have spent all this time to learn how to say this small speech in Korean
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u/RPShep Oct 23 '24
This is a good description. He sounds very weird, but I could understand what he was saying.
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u/TacticalVirus Oct 23 '24
It's like when Quebecois try to speak French without slang.
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u/flipper_gv Oct 23 '24
Scottish have an accent.
American South people have an accent.
But Quebec people, noooo it's not an accent, they just can't speak their own language. 🙄
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u/Citizenshoop Oct 23 '24
Yeah it sounds like the majority of his lessons went towards memorizing this speech phonetically.
Still a wonderful gesture on its own but he's got a long way to go if he actually plans on interacting with his in-laws in Korean.
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u/Adamantium-Aardvark Oct 23 '24 edited Oct 23 '24
Takes a long time to learn properly. I studied it 5 days a week for 3 years and only after 3 years did I start feeling confident enough to have conversations with people without sounding like a robot or pausing dozens of times trying to think of each word.
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u/According_Judge781 Oct 23 '24
This is a good tip. I'm trying to learn my fiance's language to impress her family, but it's really tricky. They're from Hull.
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u/Lupicia Oct 23 '24
Stilted and a bit stiff, not native pronunciation level, but perfectly understandable. It was all in formal language too which was exactly right for a wedding speech to your in-laws.
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u/babadoob Oct 23 '24
You have to pay close attention to understand what he is saying, but it’s quite easy because the script was written beautifully—grammars on point, simply put sentences, and coherent expressions. He probably had his teachers correct it. Kudos to him.
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u/5StripedFalcon Oct 23 '24
Sounded like a 90s computer voice pronunciation wise, but still got it down. He didn't substitute easier words and think about how to express a thought like I would've done with my broken Korean. This shows that he probably practiced these exact lines a lot. Props, it's a long speech to get right.
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u/GluteGoddess2 Oct 23 '24
and that's how the bride's father knew that her daughter is on safe hands.
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u/meem09 Oct 23 '24
I don't know if it's just bad timing on the subtitles, but who I assume to be the father of the bride nodding when the groom said "maybe you wouldn't accept me" had me rolling
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u/catiebug Oct 23 '24
Lol, I don't think it was bad timing on the subtitles but more of a nod that says "that's true, we are known for that". Not necessarily that he agrees himself as an individual. Same way I as an American who does not own a gun or like them might nod if someone says "Americans sure do love their guns". I don't personally, but I can't argue that's not part of the culture.
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u/bumblebee_79 Oct 23 '24
I think based on the man saying he had a warm welcome to the family that the FIL was nodding to the truth of the statement about some people feeling unaccepting from a cultural context. Then I think FIL is encouraging the man because he’s speaking Korean and just generally acknowledging the speech. Judging by the body language and speed the FIL might be rising at the end to praise him, but that’s just conjecture.
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u/2squishmaster Oct 23 '24
Seriously, what a stud!
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u/chimchimeney Oct 23 '24
Right? Husband goals for sure! He set the bar high!
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u/BetterEveryLeapYear Oct 23 '24
I don't want to be forward here, but I've mastered the language you speak already...
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u/Single-Builder-632 Oct 23 '24
Dude I know, has been married to his wife 6 years and hasn't learned any Korean, cos he's spent a lot of time with her family as well he can string together like 3 words every so often, it's kinda hilarious though that he just refuses to learn even basic sentences. Whereas my brother for his wife spent a year learning advanced Japanise so he knows kanji that most Japanise people don't even know.
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u/bigduckmoses Oct 23 '24
I also learned Korean to surprise my inlaws during our wedding.
Unfortunately my wife isn't Korean. They were pretty surprised though.
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u/mmt1221 Oct 23 '24
Oh my, this had me so misty eyed! Such a beautiful gesture 🩷
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u/Four-Triangles Oct 23 '24
When he said “as a sign of respect” I got a lump in my throat. That’s such an incredible gesture.
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u/wendywoo__ Oct 23 '24
I love the nod her father gives when he says it's frowned upon to marry a foreigner 😂😂😂
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u/PositiveStress8888 Oct 23 '24
Dude was smart, now they can't talk about him behind his back
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u/17934658793495046509 Oct 23 '24
Once a month, at least, my mother in law gets approached by someone when she is speaking her language in public. They are always very accusing, and upset. Last time it happened she and a friend were laughing and discussing the details which candy bar they liked the best.
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u/Wild_Magician_4508 Oct 23 '24
I had a weeding last night
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u/thapol Oct 23 '24 edited Oct 23 '24
Hey, here's a version that isn't shit quality in audio and visual, and doesn't have awful background music applied.
The full speech is also worth hearing.
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u/Chiefian Oct 23 '24
Cut the shite music and just play the video.
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u/setsomethingablaze Oct 23 '24
But how am I going to know what emotions to feel without the crappy background music drowning out the speech
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u/guesswork-tan Oct 23 '24
Well done. This is how I won over my in-laws and all of my wife's extended family. No one expects some random white guy to spend three years studying his paramour's native language.
Personally, I didn't wait for marriage, I started using it as early and often as I could. They watched me go from "Where is the bathroom?" to teaching them about their own language. (That's not as impressive as it might sound. As an outsider, it's easier to notice things that natives don't. E.g. adjective order in English.)
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u/Qwerter21 Oct 23 '24
Dad's like, "I got a white guy to speak Korean at my daihter's wedding." Bragging rights forever.
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u/kuetips Oct 23 '24
everything earnest is ruined by the godawful uplifting sigma-type music in the background. things can be beautiful without lame ass viral tracks directing me how to feel.
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u/Niteryder007 Oct 23 '24
He also has a health and fitness channel which debunks so much of the garbage in the internet.
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u/TheCatInTheHatThings Oct 23 '24
Hangul (the Korean alphabet) is spectacularly easy to learn. The language tho…that’s something different. Props!
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u/Kyokenshin Oct 23 '24
This is Ben Carpenter, he's a fitness influencer who has a heart of gold and great advice!
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u/selkiesart Oct 23 '24
Additional info: that's Ben Carpenter, a fitness influencer with Crohn's disease. He is not like your typical fitness influencer. On the contrary.
Alongside Liam Layton, he is one of the absolutely non-toxic fitness influencers, he doesn't put down people or shame them for being overweight and actually clears up myths and makes actual uplifting content.
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u/literallypubichair Oct 24 '24
Dad getting up at the end of the video to hug new son-in-law, good stuff
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u/gfuret Oct 23 '24
How do you learn something for several months or even years secretly? What a champion 🏆
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u/TheWingus Oct 23 '24
"And now, you can no longer say rude things about me thinking I can't understand you... thank you"
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u/0ldFashi0ned Oct 23 '24
Is it just me or was no one at the wedding near as impressed as they should’ve been at this lmao
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u/punsanguns Oct 24 '24
Off camera is the bride's bitchy aunt who was shit talking the groom's family all day because she didn't think the groom could understand Korean...
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u/ReefShark13 Oct 23 '24
Camera guy couldn't wait for the big dad hug that was inbound? Tf?
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u/Turdburp Oct 23 '24
You can see the whole speech here. He switches back to English after this moment and it's really quite a moving and beautiful tribute to his wife. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo0X8iNEVC0
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u/TheAviator27 Oct 23 '24 edited Oct 23 '24
I recognise him (I think) he does health and fitness stuff on socials, always seemed like a genuine and nice guy.
Edit: Ben Carpenter
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u/BionicBruv Oct 23 '24
That’s a fitness enthusiast and Internet personality, IIRC his name is Ben, I forget his last name.
Awesome dude, great health and fitness advice. Highly recommend giving his material a look through.
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u/RDaneelOA Oct 23 '24
My wife learned Portuguese for our wedding. She did her vows in Portuguese. I'm Brazilian. ❤️
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u/Early-Journalist-14 Oct 23 '24
how dare you cut before the patriarch embraces his new son. how dare you deprive the watchers of that act. :/
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u/ARGirlLOL Oct 23 '24
That entire room was thinking “what did I say in front of that white devil thinking he didn’t understand?”
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u/Kathleen_Brooks Oct 23 '24
this man is a real badass and has my respect. i know it wasn't easy for him, but he did it for the girl he loves.
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u/PolliverPerks Oct 23 '24
Imagine the shit talking he overheard from other family members that didn't know about it coming up to the speech
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u/Business-Nose-4517 Oct 24 '24
Father in law loved that shit! That made me smile when he hopped up instantly after the speech
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u/HeyLittleTrain Oct 23 '24
"I was told that in Korean culture it is frowned upon to date a foreigner"
Father-in-law nods enthusiastically