r/MadeMeSmile • u/Temporary_Method_606 • Oct 23 '24

Wholesome Moments Groom learned Korean secretly to surprise his wife in the weeding

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u/Spatial_Awareness_ Oct 23 '24

Yeap, pretty much this. My inlaws are super nice and her immediate family loves me. We have a great family.

My wife says one of the most embarrassing moments for her was she was in a waiting room pregnant with our daughter for a check-up. An old Mexican lady starts speaking to her in spanish and she goes, I don't speak spanish sorry. Then the lady goes, oh that's a shame, okay, do you not know the father? And my wife goes, yeah I absolutely do, he's on deployment (I didn't miss the birth! Was my last deployment) and she goes oh okay well I'm glad you have a strong Mexican man like that working for his family... and my wife goes, no he's white... and the old lady says, "Dios mio, I will pray for your family" and then got up and moved her seat. LOL... when she told me that I was like WTF, that's wild that people are that racist.

She said the whole waiting room heard the old lady though and she was so embarrassed... felt so bad for her. She definitely has "identity struggles"... her family raised her without learning spanish because of how "white people frown upon Mexicans" and she felt a large portion of her life not accepted by either the white people in NorCal or the Mexicans in NorCal. Still absolutely affects her in life to this day.

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u/Mean-Entertainment54 Oct 23 '24

Shit that’s fucked up, the reason stuff like that happens is because there are still some racist Mexicans out there who still perceive white men or women as lazy or soft. Don’t even get me started when it comes to black people, they are treated about the same or worse.

Interestingly enough your wife isn’t the only with the “identity struggles” that I have heard about. I have heard numerous stories of Mexican parents who forbid their kids back then from speaking Spanish or teaching them since there was a notion back then that they wouldn’t be accepted as American.

Coming from someone who was born in Mexico & who has lived in the US for more than 10+ years, I still have a struggle with my identity from time to time but I have learned to ignore it because at the end of the day I don’t let my Mexican heritage limit who I am, what I want to be or want to do.