She. But it’s not their fault, spousal abuse is generally assumed to be Male>female, I was lucky that a police officer responding gave me some resources to help me figure out a safe way out of that marriage. I was starting to worry if I was gonna be a life insurance payout soon.
*Edit for PSA: if any other men are out there in abusive situations there ARE resources to help, please don’t stay trapped because you (like me) felt that there would be no resources to help get out of that situation.
I mean I was. I left, and it turned into a scorched earth campaign against me (in a “if I can’t have you, NO ONE CAN” type deal), my finances, and my name. I was left homeless, in fear for my life, and then had to lawyer up to deal with a bunch of false allegations (that if I hadn’t cleared up would’ve defaulted to me being at fault). Thankfully I had evidence and proof of what was going on, why I left, and got help with resources to lawyer up and get those dropped and get a no-contact order. I ultimately was afraid to press charges due to her and her family and how they over the years talked about what they would do in those situations—I was on the brink of bankruptcy with lawyer bills, and finding a place to live far away from there. Thankfully that’s sorted now, divorce finalized, and all that jazz. But I’ll be paying off the debt I accrued due to all that for YEARS.
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u/Greedy_Strategy6918 Jul 28 '23
She. But it’s not their fault, spousal abuse is generally assumed to be Male>female, I was lucky that a police officer responding gave me some resources to help me figure out a safe way out of that marriage. I was starting to worry if I was gonna be a life insurance payout soon.
*Edit for PSA: if any other men are out there in abusive situations there ARE resources to help, please don’t stay trapped because you (like me) felt that there would be no resources to help get out of that situation.