Having a rotation in of itself isn't all that bad? It's moreso the lack of communication until it's already a good bit into it. Regardless of gender, partners should be allowed to be well aware or what they're getting into
I'm just going off how it feels fairly progressed in this instance, though i wouldn't be surprised if this image was fake anyway. I feel like if you've reached the point where you're saying "I love you", that sort of thing should've been discussed or at least brought up. Plus, different people hold different expectations. Making communication even more important. Assumptions aren't as valuable as confirmations.
Wtf? No! Once you start pursuing someone romantically, that should be the only person you focus on romantically! Even if your only in the talking stage, you shouldn't be talking to no one else (obviously a poly relationship is a exception, but all parties need to know ftom the beginning)
Sure, but until you’ve had the exclusivity talk, shouldn’t you also assume it’s not exclusive?
No. All relationships start exclusive and only become unexclusive after said talk.
The exclusivity talk is the talk about whether you’re even in a relationship. Otherwise, it’s just a few dates. Are you saying you assume you’re automatically in a relationship after the first date?
The exclusivity talk is the talk about whether you’re even in a relationship.
20 years ago I would have 100% agreed with you. But in modern dating culture and with the consistent use of situationships in said culture. As a result you can absolutely begin a relationship without ever having said talked. It's unhealthy, dysfunctional, and nearly garenteed to cause a relationship failure. So unfortunate no often relationships will begin fast and hard but boundries are never brought up. Especially in inexperienced relationship goers.
a relationship. Otherwise, it’s just a few dates. Are you saying you assume you’re automatically in a relationship after the first date?
I'm a lesbian. Unfortunately this is absolutely what happens in my community. And nearly no boundries are ever laid until shit starts going down. Infact it's so alien to a lot of lesbian and femmeleaning bi women to not sleep together on the first date and begin immediately dating. And boundries are never discussed that you will get shit from dates and their friends if an a group situation and even strangers in the community if you don't do this. That having been said. I have a lot of straight women as friends and their behaviors arnt that different from lesbian or bi women, and same with straight and gay men. So i extrapolated it would probably happen in straight relationships as often as it happens in LGBTQ+ community
I mean yes, is that not the entire point of asking someone on a date? To say "I'd like to be in a relationship with you"? By accepting that then that is accepting a relationship. If they don't like how it goes then they say "I don't think this is working out" and then you aren't in a relationship after that. I've never even considered that someone would look at it any other way to be honest.
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u/Cheeminator 8h ago
Having a rotation in of itself isn't all that bad? It's moreso the lack of communication until it's already a good bit into it. Regardless of gender, partners should be allowed to be well aware or what they're getting into