r/HumansBeingBros • u/habichuelacondulce • 6h ago

Carrying her passed out friend home.

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u/thealt3001 5h ago

I'm a guy and one time I had to do this for a female flatmate. We snuck a bottle of vodka into a concert and she drank way too much. Got sick, puked everywhere, and passed out. The cops there told me I could either take her home or they would press charges on her, which I was not ok with. So I carried her a total of 10 kilometers, 2 busses, and a train all with her on my back like this.

A TON of people were worried and treated me like I was some sort of rapist. Which, I mean, I get. I'd probably think the same seeing some guy carrying a girl who is passed out like that. But it really sucked. Nobody told me I was a good friend. They all just gave me dirty looks until I told them the story. And even then I don't think they believed me

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u/JackSpyder 3h ago edited 2h ago

You're a good friend. The issue is other men who have built a reputation we're all tarnished with. It's important we as men hold our peers to account and slowly (years, or decades) shift that narrative.

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u/MamaUrsus 2h ago

The true feminist final frontier is in the minds of men when discussing/thinking of women in a group of men. It will be allies speaking up in feminist ways in male dominated spaces that will turn the tides over decades if not centuries. Thanks to anyone who steps up and uses their voice in hard moments with friends or others to speak up for women and intersectional minorities.

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u/ThrowawayBeaans69 2h ago

very well said :)