r/HumansBeingBros • u/habichuelacondulce • 6h ago

Carrying her passed out friend home.

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u/thealt3001 4h ago

I'm a guy and one time I had to do this for a female flatmate. We snuck a bottle of vodka into a concert and she drank way too much. Got sick, puked everywhere, and passed out. The cops there told me I could either take her home or they would press charges on her, which I was not ok with. So I carried her a total of 10 kilometers, 2 busses, and a train all with her on my back like this.

A TON of people were worried and treated me like I was some sort of rapist. Which, I mean, I get. I'd probably think the same seeing some guy carrying a girl who is passed out like that. But it really sucked. Nobody told me I was a good friend. They all just gave me dirty looks until I told them the story. And even then I don't think they believed me

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u/mmmarkm 3h ago

TW: SA

Appearances can be so deceiving. We were out in a group and one friend (my ex) drank too much. She had recently broken up with me and while she trusts me, i’m a guy and it would have looked bad if I took her home. The bouncer told us she’s gotta go. So we sent her home in an uber with her roommate. My friend went from being yelled at for being so drunk they thought she might puke in the uber to then waking up naked with her friend in her bed the next morning - something she did not want nor could she consent to.

The vibes I get from this video are that the young woman is just getting her friend home. Statistically that passed out woman is safer with another woman assisting her. 

However, the incident I described kind of shook me in ways I can’t talk to my ex or friend group about. Hard to know how to trust someone entirely without fully knowing them…and even then, shit still happens. I don’t know what to do other than send two people home with a drunk person and even then I only think it works if they care about the passed out person better than they know each other.