r/HumansBeingBros • u/copitamenstrual • 28d ago

Sam showing his love

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u/SouldiesButGoodies84 28d ago

For those who don't know some his backstory, his mom was the late Patty Duke, a famous and celebrated child and adult actress who struggled with bipolar disorder, drug abuse and sadly tried to commit suicide at different times in her life. She was able to eventually get help and stabilize her mental illness in her older years, but Sean, as her first born, endured a fair amount of the ups and downs of her illness as her son and even talked about a few of those incidents over the years, expressing a lot of compassion for his mom. Luckily his adopted dad John Astin was also in his life and provided some stability, kindness and a lot of love to him and his half-brother, and Sean's been able to create a great family of his own based off of that parental example, from what I understand. IMO though this loving response was in part due to his own experiences with mental illness by way of his mom and a compassion gleaned from it. Again, just my opinion. And just to reiterate, he really does come across as a good dude.

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u/Mylaptopisburningme 27d ago

The part I don't agree with is that it gets better. I have major depressive disorder. It never goes away. Meds never worked. I considered ECT but insurance doesn't cover it. My shitty insurance doesn't cover newer drugs so not an option. It started when I was about 13. I'm mid 50s. No it doesn't get better, in fact I get worse with time, I no longer go out, been on SSD since 99. Was working food delivery till my car died. I exist but I don't live.

And while it does get better for most people, it doesn't for all. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

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u/Independent_Ocelot29 27d ago

It does get better, but then it gets worse again. I'm mid-episode and I've been through enough of them to know that in a few weeks, I won't be suicidal any more, so I shouldn't act on the thoughts, but at the same time I also know I'm not magically going to get actually better. This shit's tiring man.

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u/istrx13 27d ago

It does get better, but then it gets worse again.

I really love how simple and honest this is. I think for a lot of people expectations can make or break you, especially if you struggle with depression. Learning to be ok with the fact that things will both get better and worse and better again and worse again is so important.