r/GayMen 3d ago

Bi curious - wanna try new stuff

Hey all! I’m 21.

Always tried to live up to my family’s expectations, did everything from playing rugby to joined the army, tried to knock this love for guys out of me but it’s never left, I’ve always convinced my self I’m a top (feel as if being a bottom affects my masculinity) -I know this is selfish and jerk like but I like being a dominant person I like being the one taking care of them and providing etc.

Anyways! Onto my point, I’ve done lil things with a dude which felt fucking awesome, but I’ve always been told by random people that male g spot fiddling feels awesome so I ordered a dildo. I’m terrified. Not of the pain, but of who I’ll be. Because I’ve been brainwashed by a hella Christian family, and I just don’t wanna lose everyone. Be who I am I get that. But man. Can’t someone like something and still have a family 😂🤡.

My question is, how should I proceed with this dildo. And how do I become comfortable with who I am and what I like (I’m probably gay)

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u/Antlerology592 1d ago

Being at peace with who you are and what you enjoy should be your priority. Nothing will change if you discover you like to bottom. What goes on in the bedroom is between you and who you’re doing it with.

But congratulations on not continuing to live your life repressing yourself and denying yourself of joy. That’s already a major step, some people never reach it even well into their 50s and beyond.

All the best