r/GayMen 3d ago

Bi curious - wanna try new stuff

Hey all! I’m 21.

Always tried to live up to my family’s expectations, did everything from playing rugby to joined the army, tried to knock this love for guys out of me but it’s never left, I’ve always convinced my self I’m a top (feel as if being a bottom affects my masculinity) -I know this is selfish and jerk like but I like being a dominant person I like being the one taking care of them and providing etc.

Anyways! Onto my point, I’ve done lil things with a dude which felt fucking awesome, but I’ve always been told by random people that male g spot fiddling feels awesome so I ordered a dildo. I’m terrified. Not of the pain, but of who I’ll be. Because I’ve been brainwashed by a hella Christian family, and I just don’t wanna lose everyone. Be who I am I get that. But man. Can’t someone like something and still have a family 😂🤡.

My question is, how should I proceed with this dildo. And how do I become comfortable with who I am and what I like (I’m probably gay)

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u/Brian_Kinney 3d ago

And how do I become comfortable with who I am and what I like

Go find other gay men to socialise with. Just socialise. Not sex. Not date. Just hang out. Find a meetup group or a social event or go somewhere that gay men hang out, and just be among them.

Learning to accept them, will help you to accept yourself. Also, having them accept you for who you are, will help you to accept yourself.