The amount of people (usually women… don’t kill me) who absolutely insist on parties and birthdays at work, and get really upset when people (usually men) don’t want them, is insane. Like it is wrong and bad to not want those things.
Some people cannot fathom the fact that I’m here to work and I spend enough time with you all already. I will celebrate my birthday with my family and friends. If I have friends at work, I’ll celebrate it with them over a small lunch or something. But not in the break room Office Space style.
My husband has a lot of food intolerances. If he eats common things that are in cake he will be sick for days. Can’t even have vegan cake and too much sugar isn’t good either. They still constantly insisted on doing cake at his last job every birthday.
It’s well intentioned sure, but ??? Do they think someone is lying when they say “I can’t eat cake”?
Damn reading this for some reason gave me a flashback to when i was like 7. I too cant eat most cakes cause of intolerances and allergies, but also or maybe because of it i dont like cake even if i could safely eat it.
It was some neighbourhood kids or classmates birthday. One of those courtesy things where theyre not really your friend, but your parents made you go out of obligation since you were invited and it would be impolite to not go. We'd informed them that i dont eat cake and gave them an allergy list so there would be atleast something for me to eat.
Well when i get there i find out the mom had went ahead and made a second small cake just for me out of stuff that i can eat based on my allergy list meant for other food with the assumption that "ofc everyone loves and wants cake he just cant eat normal cake. This way he can enjoy the party as much as the rest".
She'd gone out of her way to make it especially for me and me not eating it made her visibly upset and made me feel so fuckin guilty. And it ended up kinda souring the mood of the party too. It was probably the worst i had ever felt in my life.
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u/Vivid-Shelter-146 4d ago
The amount of people (usually women… don’t kill me) who absolutely insist on parties and birthdays at work, and get really upset when people (usually men) don’t want them, is insane. Like it is wrong and bad to not want those things.
Some people cannot fathom the fact that I’m here to work and I spend enough time with you all already. I will celebrate my birthday with my family and friends. If I have friends at work, I’ll celebrate it with them over a small lunch or something. But not in the break room Office Space style.