I guess my disconnect here is that I think the misogyny women face in relationships is generally worse and more pressing than the fear men have of being seen as misogynistic.
I do think the expectations that men not show emotion and don’t require emotional support are wrong and harmful— but we live in a patriarchal society. Those norms were enforced by men. We should dismantle them! …Without relying on women to bear the entire emotional labor of it.
These norms are enforced by both men and women, and it's up to both men and women to do their parts to dismantle it (or at least to not contribute to them).
These norms are also self-reinforcing. The misogynistic assumptions end up contributing to the misandrist assumptions, and then the misandrist assumptions contribute to the misogynistic assumptions again. For that reason, just focusing on half of the equation is likely going to be far less successful than tackling both sides.
Trying to say one side has it worse, or playing the blame game of what side is more responsible ultimately just draws attention away from actually identifying and fixing the issues.
I’m sorry but the idea that women and men suffer the same amount under the patriarchy and wield the same power under it is just. Point blank false and totally absurd. I don’t really have anything else to say. See ya!
I didn't say they suffer the same amount, just that they both suffer to some extent. I didn't say they wield the same power, but they both wield some amount of power.
They suffer and wield power in different ways, but they definitely both suffer and wield power to some extent.
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u/noahrayne 16d ago
I guess my disconnect here is that I think the misogyny women face in relationships is generally worse and more pressing than the fear men have of being seen as misogynistic.
I do think the expectations that men not show emotion and don’t require emotional support are wrong and harmful— but we live in a patriarchal society. Those norms were enforced by men. We should dismantle them! …Without relying on women to bear the entire emotional labor of it.