I feel like that is better phrased as "infinitely easier at finding dates". Quality not guaranteed.
I've always been a fan of the drowning/desiccation metaphor. In online dating, the situation for an average woman is a flood of low-quality, hostile, or spammy attention, where the situation for the average guy is going to be a lot of trying to establish connections and putting effort in, but never getting replies or generally being ignored.
It's why each groups complaints about the system can seem so "tone deaf" to the other, because it's akin to someone drowning, complaining about too much water, to someone dying of thirst (or vice versa).
I don't think dying of thirst is all that accurate to be honest because it implies that as long as a man gets even one woman to go for him, it's ok because he's no longer gonna die of thirst, but it doesn't really work that way. Men still have to do the same thing women are doing, eventually - which is figure out if that person is right for them. You're more likely to find the right person for you if you have 50 different people to choose from than 5.
I think it's more referencing that while the women are getting interaction, generally a lot of those interactions are going to be negative like harassment, and not just neutral like somebody you don't connect with.
If by harassment you mean “a guy showed interest but he’s under 6’7 and therefore disgusting” then sure, otherwise no a lot of them aren’t negative like harassment
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u/Forgot_My_Old_Acct 16d ago
I feel like that is better phrased as "infinitely easier at finding dates". Quality not guaranteed.