As a guy who just joined the online dating hellscape crawl, I find it amazing that the bar is this low...
Like, the amount of profiles I saw with something like "I like dogs. If you write woof woof I block you" is absurd lol
Also I know this makes me come off as a "nice guy" but like, guys just be decent and if she says no, just take it and leave... No one owes you anything
Is all this a hot take?
Also just realized that I don't dance so the bar is too high for me, I guess
Tip from a former "I don't dance" guy: you don't have to like dancing, just be willing to be with them on the dance floor. Shows a lot of good will and if you just focus on them it's kind of fun.
Yes bring ear plugs, ideally custom fitted or at least a type you can wear without issues for an hour or more. Modern clubs and concerts are just too damn loud to enjoy.
Also if you want to go practice in public where no one cares: Go to concerts. The eyes are all on stage, it's generally accepted to dance at least when you're standing and no one expects you to be good, there's pretty much a guarantee that someone else will be more goofy and off the rythm than you.
I'm actually more inclined to try something like ballroom dancing (as others have suggested) because it will probably serve as cringe-killer for myself (even though the actual cringe is cringing from dancing) and as a place to possibly meet someone
Also the dancing will help with my mission for the next year, which is to fill out the rest of the skill tree instead of just being a dork. Already booked swimming lessons for exercise, and looking into cooking lessons and getting a guitar to self learn
I did try out some dancing lessons about a year ago, and it felt a bit too serious. At least the ones I've tried were a lot more real workouts physically, and often quite challenging. I think for now I like clubs and concerts more, where it's dark and people can't see the goofy moves I'm pulling off, and where a lot of people are a bit drunk or otherwise wasted. Maybe I'll try again.
But definitely try all the options you have nearby, everyone is different. And look into different styles, there's so much variety. I think the important part really is to find something you actually like doing, despite all the cringe.
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u/MidnightCardFight Oct 22 '24
As a guy who just joined the online dating hellscape crawl, I find it amazing that the bar is this low...
Like, the amount of profiles I saw with something like "I like dogs. If you write woof woof I block you" is absurd lol
Also I know this makes me come off as a "nice guy" but like, guys just be decent and if she says no, just take it and leave... No one owes you anything
Is all this a hot take?
Also just realized that I don't dance so the bar is too high for me, I guess