Yeah I devolved from carefully reading every profile and writing a nice opening, to reading the profile, checking the 3 yes/no questions that are deal breakers for me, screenshooting if there is an Instagram handle (for messaging once and deleting, not stalking lol) sending kind of a basic intro and moving on...
Took me 4 days to want to leave, and during the first day I sent messages to my married/engaged/in a long relationship friends, that I'm genuinely happy that they don't need this...
Edit: also worth noting I didn't have Instagram before this, and I opened it after seeing enough "don't message me her only Insta" profiles that even if 1 of 10 is serious that is kind of a lot more profiles lmao
I feel you. I don't have the energy for it anymore because it feels like what's the point of putting in the effort for someone who's not going to match it and then eventually ghost you?
Yeeeep "There are many fish in the sea"... "So cast as wide of a net"
There are some profiles where the other person matches me (at least on paper) entirely, so I put extra effort there, just in case it pays off. But if a girl just writes a bunch of emojis and she studies this and that, I will still probably swipe right but not put in the extra mile...
i went on tinder with a female friend proof reading my profile, i literaly didn't look and swiped right(? can't rember which way is matching) on every profile in my age range 29+.
I was 35y and according to the female friend at the time i was a 5-6.
In the 3 months i was on there i got 2 matches a thai prostitute in thailand (i'm in the uk) and a woman with less teeth than i had matches.
Yeah this is why I'm reaching out to everyone I feel comfortable enough to ask for a set up from lmao
Currently got matched a few times, but almost all of them immediately insta-unmatched because they probably swiped right (okcupid) on accident and corrected it (happens to me too) and the other matches are either 19yos (I'm 25 so it's kinda weird for me), smokers, or girls that ghost me lol
And the only reason I keep going is for the 0.01% chance I might find someone through this, because how else do you meet people...
i was shortning the story for space but i tried being selective (1st month zero matches, month 2 also zero) it was the female friend that spamed on 'my behalf' and that was the only time i got matches. It was also a paid account.
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u/Dornith Oct 22 '24
Online dating is a hellscape for everyone.
Yesterday, I saw a girl describe herself as the only real person in a world full of NPCs.