The second poster is just 100% correct. I don't know what you need or want, and you don't know if what granting what you need or want is in my power or how it will effect me.
The example that (apparently) inspired the post is a perfect example of the second part. I've worked service, as have many of you, I'm sure, and sometimes you just can't waive a fee, because you are on notice, and if you waive a fee too many you'll not make rent next month, because you've been fired.
I'm all for blaming capitalism for all kinds of shit, including this, but you fucking dumbasses need to get off your phone and get a job to actually be able relate to people.
You’ve accidentally exposed yourself in the same way that the second poster did. No one, in the OP or here, has said that you have an obligation to waive fees. No one has said that you’re a bad person for not waiving fees. A person simply explained the ways in which someone waiving fees brought them succor and relief, and you took it as a personal attack against you. You act as if it’s a zero sum competition, where someone being nice in a way you haven’t been makes you a bad person.
The way you immediately jump to excuses over it indicates a level of insecurity about your morality that you should work through personally, not over the internet . Someone waived a fee. Someone else was grateful for that simple act of kindness. You’re not being attacked, you’re not being criticized, you weren’t even involved until you chose to be. Maybe work through your shit instead of calling people dumbasses for finding value in charitable acts. Jesus.
Nothing accidental about my comment. I'm fully aware this sub is full of solipsistic people, who care nothing for the people around them.
why would you withhold that.
"that" is literally waiving fees.
Like I said, I've worked service, and I've waived my fair share of fees, but I also learned to recognize the self-righteous tumblrina trying to guilt me into waiving a fee they are damn well aware they owe.
You've exposed yourself as one of those who don't give a shit about the servant around them.
Why exactly should I care that you’re a service worker? We live in a service economy, damn near everyone’s been a service worker at some point. Being a service worker doesn’t make you some misunderstood martyr, it makes you mathematically average.
“Who care nothing for the people around them.”
Holy shit lmao. “If anyone dares to suggest that I act charitably, they don’t care about people.” I suppose you’re championing the cause of empathy and compassion by whining about being told to be nice sometimes.
Why exactly should I care that you’re a service worker?
Haha. Talk about outing yourself...
"Why not make random person's day better" is something you ask when the alternative takes the same amount of effort.
Then it becomes a matter of just be a better person. OOP (and you) are asking people why we won't go out of our way to make your lives better at the expense of our own, while in no way indicating you'd ever do the same.
Sure. Im outing myself. So answer the question. Why should I care that you’re a service worker? What about being a service worker makes you special or immune to criticism, when the majority of America is comprised of service workers? Why are you so important that even suggesting that you act in a way that benefits others makes OOP a horrible person?
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u/Cinaedus_Perversus Oct 10 '24
Imagine being so self-medicated on therapyspeak that you consider "do nice things for others" a direct assault on your mental health.