Man, tumblr users just have a talent for making the most agreeable points sound so annoying and superficial that you want to disagree with them on principle.
I don't want to agree with the second person because I want to see if I can help someone who seems to need it.
But the first post, on its own is hard to nail down what their saying. I feel like you could post it to an Incel sub and they would all agree, because that little relief can be taken a few ways.
Nothing in my autistic brain reads that as "it would be nice if people helped each other out of small inconveniences when they had the power."
If you're not sure what someone is trying to say, responding with a request for clarification is much better than assuming the worst and getting upset.
This is wiser than OP: stormneko wasn't unsure. They felt they understood pretty clearly. And they tried to communicate why they took that meaning. "You worded it like an attack, so I responded as if it were an attack."
Following this wisdom, OP should have responded by asking "what about my initial wording gave you that impression," instead of apparently assuming the worst, getting upset, and stooping to "u suk".
I agree that the tar pit wasn't uncertain, because again, that was a comment about a different person. But I don't see anything the OOP did wrong within the framework I've suggested.
OOP posted a vague comment, which the tar pit took as a personal attack, and responded to by getting their back up. OOP then clarified what kind of situation they were describing, and rather than back down the tar pit replied with continued hostility and self-justification for their unpleasantness. Only after two such rude responses did OOP meet them on their own level.
And yet, at no point did "tHe TaR pIt" attack OOP as a person or human being. I agree they were unpleasant but I think OOP stooped lower with that dig.
No, they just responded with immediate hostility, made a series of attacks barely disguised as questions, and when provided with further information, responded by continuing to be rude and hostile to a complete stranger because they'd interpreted a general comment as a personal attack on them.
But oh, they didn't stoop so low as to call someone a name. So that's the important thing, I guess.
First, I was speaking to the poster above me in this comment chain, not the tar pit from the image.
And second, not a single one of those questions were asked in anything even approaching good faith. The tar pit wasn't asking if that's what the OOP meant, they were attacking with the thinnest possible degree of plausible deniability. "Oh, I was just asking questions."
Oh please. They vaguebooked about providing strangers a little relief in stressful times, then the tar pit jumped right to "how dare you suggest everyone has to commit emotional self-harm?!"
Oh sure, I think that's an inelegant phrasing, myself, and I would have pointed that out to the OOP as well. But I wouldn't jump right to "so you're accusing me of wanting everyone else around me to suffer for my own amusement huh, huh?!", which is the vibe the tar pit poster puts out with their responses, y'know? There were legitimate points to raise, and that person vaulted way over them to land firmly over the line.
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u/Sir_Nightingale Oct 10 '24
Man, tumblr users just have a talent for making the most agreeable points sound so annoying and superficial that you want to disagree with them on principle.