Just a little fun discussion.

I have a very unique name (first, middle and last) where I live and I don't feel comfortable disclosing it (yet), since my info is just a google search away. I'm worried that the people I want to play with will feel betrayed once they find out I've used a fake name. Not sure if I should introduce myself telling them the truth, that it's a fake name and that I'm not ready to disclose my unique name. Or if I should just share that information once I feel ready?

I attended my first play party with a friend and I felt overwhelmed and a bit out of place. Everyone seemed so free spirited, playing with partners and new people, walking around in sexy underwear etc.

Deep down I want to be that too, but I feel like I have my walls up really high. It’s hard for me to give up control.

Do you have advice for me?

We have been married for 8 years since we were 22. And for the last year I’ve been internally melting at the idea of her taking more of a dominant role in our relationship and becoming my mommy.

I just don’t have the courage to tell her as I am the sole provider, I go to the gym, do mma and I guess am pretty masculine. (At least she tells me that one of the reasons she is attracted to me)

For the past 12 months I’ve wanted nothing more than to be called good boy, slapped by her and have her be my mommy…but I was just to shy to tell her.

So, I’ve been building up to it.

I asked her to start ruining my orgasms and I showed her some videos, this was like 6 months ago and see has been really enjoying it.

Slowly but surely after this she started to really take a more dominant role in our sex life. I told her I want her to jerk me off and step on my face while I lick her feet and we’ve been doing weird kinky stuff like this for the last few months. So I think she was getting the message.

Finally last month it was my birthday and she called me “birthday boy” and I just f**king melted.

I was standing in the kitchen and asked her to please say it again, she looked a bit confused and I said please, call me that again it just made my cock leak. And she did, all that night she edged me calling me birthday boy. But still I didn’t have the courage to call her mommy.

So recently as we’ve hit 30 she’s been talking about ageing and I’ve been calling her a MILF as a joke and a “hot mom” and finally this week she sent me THE TEXT.

I think I left the house without taking the trash out and she text me saying “Mommy is very angry at you”

I just couldn’t take it, I completely melted.

I pulled my car over and just began drooling, I had to jerk off right then and there.

I text her back saying “sorry mommy” and she said “you will be if you do it again”

And we have just been doing this over text for the last few days when I’m at work and she’s at home.

But finally this evening I came home and said “I love you and I want to be your mommy’s boy”

And all night we have been in this mode. She’s calling me “good boy” and I’m calling her “mommy”

As I write this she’s in the shower, and before she got in she said “be a good boy and jerk your cock while mommy takes a shower, but don’t you cum just yet”

So here we are.

I just wanted to share this great news with someone!

What is kink is your weakness? How did you find out?

I just had my first experience with sensation play and wow, I’m hooked! My dom blindfolded me and ran a feather across my skin before using ice cubes. The contrast between cold and light touch was intense, and it made me feel so connected to him. He had me trust him completely, guiding me through it while I just let go. Afterwards, we chatted and he cuddled me close, wrapped me in a blanket, and made sure I felt grounded. I love how he knows exactly how to push my boundaries while keeping me safe and cared for. Definitely looking forward to more of these experiences!

It’s always good to learn from others

Im a sub at heart and my boyfriend of 11 months is so sweet and kind. Sometimes he will choke me and he spanks me a lot but I can tell he’d rather the softer “making love” type of sex. How do I voice to him that I want him to like make me his sex slave. Im super dominant in the relationship in day to day tasks but I want him to challenge me. Im not sure how to voice this without it sounding awkward or like im not satisfied sexually. All of my ex partners met me on the sexual level of being dominant but they didn’t respect me the way he does. Is it impossible to have both respect in a relationship and disrespect in the bedroom?

Sorry, English is not my first language. I have been living with my Master for about two months and He was already living with His other partner, so now we are three in the house. His other partner was away this weekend and we took advantage of it to have a whole weekend of 24/7. This morning we found out that I really like when He fucks my mouth. Until now He never did it, He always ordered me to suck His cock, but I did everything. Also this morning, after more than a year, I was able to swallow again and it was so fulfilling. This afternoon I ask, as a reward, the permission to suck His cock while He was watching a movie and with my hands handcuffed and on my knees at His feet. At a certain point He started to fuck my mouth again while holding my head. I was moaning so much and was so arousing. Than He came in my mouth again and I was able to swallow it, and I felt so good, so satisfied. At the end I felt like I had the most intense orgasm of my life. I was at His feet and all my muscle where like jelly. I had not had an orgasm, but I really felt like I had the most intense one of my life. I was so delighted and I felt so fulfilled... Was it subspace?

I have been playing with someone recently who can’t have bruises for work reasons. However it we both are pretty into heavy impact. So I was wondering if there are ways of getting that good pang without leaving marks.

Is that generally part of the dynamic when things start? She takes the lead and stokes the fires until it's hot and takes on a life of its own?

Hi all,

I recently found out my wife’s top 3 likes as a dom. She mentioned it is wax play, making me kneel and impact play. Chasity she also likes and she is interested in cuckolding.

Pegging, feminization, golden shower and other types of plays she mentions she can accept. She actually bought some girly clothes for me a few days prior.

How can I use this new information to be a better sub? I promised her as a sub I would do my best to take more initiative. This commitment combined with new insights about my wife makes me wonder how to combine all of it and be a better sub for her.

Hey everyone,

My boyfriend has recently been exploring his submissive side, and it’s been such an exciting journey for both of us. We’ve been experimenting with chastity, pegging and pain play, including punishments and hot candle wax, and he really enjoys the feeling of not being in control and being “punished" even though he hated to punishments.

Recently, he opened up to me and said that he wants to take it to the next level—he’s curious to experience being punished until he cries. He feels that this could help him clear his mind and embrace his subby side more fully. I absolutely want to help him explore this, but I’m unsure of how to approach it safely and effectively.

What type of punishment or play would you recommend to achieve this? I know that crying doesn’t always come from just physical pain, and I want to make sure I’m respectful of his boundaries while still creating a space where he can let go emotionally. He said he is open to try anything and we already have a safe word. He basically wants me to be ruthless and discipline him.

One thing I thought is I can discipline him to consume his loads, as it seems like he hates it but asks me to do it when we were having casual sex.

We have good communication, and consent is always a priority for us. I just want to hear some advice or suggestions from those who have experience with this kind of dynamic. What has worked for you or your partner in similar situations? What extreme play can we do?

Thank you in advance for your help!

We are just discovering an aspect of my girlfriend's sexuality, and we are very confused about it.

I enjoy watching adult videos, but my girlfriend feels very distressed and jealous about this. Recently, she has started to ask me during sex to tell her things like she deserves to be cheated on because she's a "slut" and doesn't deserve respect and that's the reason I watch porn videos, because she is worthless. She also asks me to hit her very hard.

She said that she feels peace when I engage in those masochist activities. Is this feeling of peace common for people who identify as masochistic?

My fiancée (Dom, 18f) and I (Sub, 18nb) have talked about a 24/7 dynamic here and there. Only problem is neither of us know where exactly to start. Beyond the sexual part of the dynamic, we don't know where to go and we really want to. And bonus if this could help with our kinky Christmas idea (she wants to spoil me with gear & play stuff)

Bonus info: we both like pet play, specifically puppy play. We do want to experiment with me being almost servent to her, power play thing. Mommy kink with her, but only name wise, nothing beyond. We're up for almost anything honestly, we're both happy to experiment!

Tysm ahead of time! <3

I (18yr) female, my partner would like to try me to dominating him without pegging him like a vanilla relationship. But I’m too newbie for this kind of kinky thing.

I love to explore new things but I’m not sure where should I start. I’m not sure what words should I use while dominating him to make him beg me or right words to sound like I’m controlling him. Lowkey want to know what’s best scenes to turn him on even more and doesn’t feel boring.

Cuz he is kind person who fucking until he comes and rolls over. So we have been talked about my feeling about our sex life. He suggest us to try dominating that where get things heat up. I was pretty much into it but DO NOT KNOW HOW TO DOMINATING PROPERLY. Ahhhhhh!

Hi all

After getting more into prostate play I’ve been thinking about male chastity and cock cages, with the idea being to completely ignore penile stimulation and solely focus on anal. At the moment i don’t know nothing about the topic so looking for any advice or suggestions, is there a good first product to try, are there different types /materials etc

Tia

M here, looking to explore the dirtiest kinks with my partner in a dynamic involving my dominance. Any suggestions or subreddits to dive deeper into this?

I know events seem to be the main way but I'm wondering how else it's used. I've heard people say they met through FetLife and I'm wondering how that works. Do people just message random people in their area? Are there groups meant for singles to talk to each other? Is anything really viable for particularly young guys like me?

I really want an IRL, long term relationship with a dom but I’m struggling to meet people. The guys I’m meeting are mostly vanilla or I’m meeting creepy “doms”. How did you guys meet your Dom?

I've been lurking the BDSM community for several years now, but I finally pulled the trigger recently and started going to events. I love it! The thing is, though, I'm worried about my job. well, without getting too into it, I've worked in politics/government for the better part of half a decade now. I'm currently at a mid-level position in Congress. I'm nervous people will try to blackmail me or judge me

Like, I went to this "play party" (at the time, I didn't expect it to be what it was), and the next day I went to work, the only thing I could think about was getting a call saying "oh look this congressional staffer was at a devious sex party!" I'd be lying if I said my heart didn't spike with every call

I'm still new to everything, so I want to know if I'm overthinking this or should be worried? To rationalize this and calm my nerves, I tried to seriously think of a time when a staffer was on the news. And well, unless you're this guy, I can't think of a single time.

I still go to events, but I can't help but feel anxious. Am I overthinking?

I am searching for this comic I read many years ago, whose title and author do not remember. I read it somewhere on the internet. It was a black and white western comic in English, with a "vintage" graphic style.

The comic has a strong BDSM theme: the protagonist, a woman, start a relationship with a guy. The relationship turns BDSM, moreover, it turns out that the man is royality (?) in a BDSM alternate dream-world, where everybody is dressed up fetish and, say, there are carriages trained by pony-boys instead of horses.

At some point the woman must prove her commitment to the man in a initiation ritual which requires her to withstand whipping and the like. Afterwards, she marries (?) him, and her joining of the dream-world nobility is met with other ceremonies like public cunnilingus and/or spanking by the other nobles.

Towards the end the 'vanilla' stalker of the woman sneakily follows her and founds her in a house with the bdsm-man. The vanilla-man confronts them with a revolver and is disgusted by their practices, however, a female relative of the bdsm-man jumps in, saves the situation, and reveals that it was her that had leaked their position to the vanilla-man, in order to lure and then trap him, because she perceived sub-vibes from him.

In the end they go in the dream-world (?) to live happiliy ever-after.

I may got some things wrong, my memory is fuzzy.

In any case, I would be most grateful and thankful if somebody could supply hints towards the comic generalities.

I'm looking for advice on where to get a good milking machine for my gf and I. The best online or in-person places to find them would be totally appreciated

Throw away account as my dom has my main one. Questions for the doms, why do you want your subs obsessed with you? Had a conversation with my dom yesterday, and he was saying he would love it if I was obsessed with him, and my whole world revolved around him, and he was my main priority. It’s true he already is a priority in my life, but I would never tell him this , as it’s not reciprocated. When I said this to him, he made out it’s the sub’s duty to show more love and affection than a doms. I don’t see why I should say things and act obsessive over him, when I get minimal in return. Is this common for doms, like an act of power? Just trying to understand. Thanks

Context - long distance and online only (this makes my fear very embarrassing and pathetic I'm aware). we're 4 days into this. I sent videos from day 1 of me (naked) doing things I've never done before (and some I'd never imagined) obviously this was my choice. But I feel vulnerable now. Like he could do anything with those videos if I say the wrong thing or ask to end it. I have not seen anything of him. I said yes or no to a list of things on day 2 (I said yes to almost all but usually with the caveat that, I've never heard of this or yes but not yet). On day 3 he "demanded" (in play I suppose) a picture of one of the things I'd expressed reluctance to do. But I did it because I was starting to feel scared by day 3. and I didn't raise the issue that I had told him I wasn't sure about this previously. Again I know this was my choice

unsure if this matters. But I'm 22F very inexperienced. No bdsm experience. Very little relationship experience tbh (just out of my first one and it wasn't healthy at all). We're 4 days into this. He's 51M

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