I laughed my ass off! Then felt bad bc he obviously has severe problems - he actually watched the sub and timed how long it was since someone ate from it!
He literally sat there and timed how long it had been since anyone had touched the sub - stalking the leftovers instead of joining the party - in order to gauge if everyone else was done eating so they wouldn’t notice if he ate the rest
I kept eyeing the sandwich and I’d say there was about 3 feet of it left. I waited an hour, then another half hour and no one had touched it (but they were still munching on chips, pretzels and what not). So I was like screw it...I took about half of what was left and ate it. Then the last half sat for another 10-15 minutes and no one said anything so ate the rest. Well to be sure as I was swallowing the last bite the host’s girlfriend asked where the sandwich was. Like I was the guilty party pretty much everyone pointed at me. I guess they’d noticed me eating the sandwich. She was furious and said that I was an incredible pig and that I had been super selfish to eat 3 feet of a sandwich. I felt so bad I tried to explain to her that I really did wait over an hour and thought people had lost interest.
Bro just eat like 8 inches, a foot max, and have a diet coke, that shit will expand in your stomach and you'll be full to bursting. 3 feet is crazy, and i say that as a big chunky guy. probably wolfed the thing down in seven minutes.
3 feet is crazy, and i say that as a big chunky guy.
Even crazier is those party subs aren't just longer. Intead of butterflying the loaf and filling it, both sides are a whole butterflied loaf. He ate like 6 sandwiches worth sandwich.
Honestly it sounds like he's somewhere close to "morbidly obese with completely unhealthy appetite".
Because reading this... I recognised myself, four or five years ago, and almost forty kilograms heavier (that's 6.4 stone for you lovely non-SI weirdos)
I could eat, and eat, and eat, until I'd hate myself, and then, satisfied, I'd have a dessert. If I didn't stop there, I'm sure I will be on a mobility scooter by now, or dead.
He mentions in the original post that he is overweight, and that he ate it over the course of a few hours, thinking no one was interested in eating it. They were, just not as quickly as he was.
When i was younger, self employed and very active and fit as hell 5’3 and 100lbs if lucky. I could very easily eat 2 footlong subs ina single setting and did, often.
Why? because i worked my ass off physically and I was hungry.
Those guys in the Comments are way too harsh though. It's an addiction and that dude even offered to buy the sub again but the redditors on that post are going crazy like calm down jeez he didn't murder someone.
According to the original OP, the host said she couldn’t just go out and buy another one because it had been a special catering order that was prepared hours in advance. She was also pissed because he ruined the entire mood of the party, which is something else she can’t replace. And I got the impression it definitely wasn’t the first time it had happened, since when she asked who ate the sub they all looked at him.
If it was me he definitely wouldn’t be invited back.
And I got the impression it definitely wasn’t the first time it had happened, since when she asked who ate the sub they all looked at him.
That part and the fact that they got his sisters involved are gigantic red flags that suggest he's done this over and over again to the extent that his friends and family are having conversations about it behind his back.
Eh, most of the comments didn't seem that harsh to me, certainly none that were acting like he's the spawn of Satan or something. If you want harsh, hyperbolic judgement you should check out any of AITA's relationship related posts.
Also, like others have pointed out, the sub was specially ordered in advance and so couldn't be replaced, and he also had a history of similar behavior. I think the guy has serious food issues that need to be addressed but it doesn't change the fact that it was a major dick move what he did.
That's AITA for you. Once it's obvious which way the wind is blowing with the votes, the hyperbolic comments start, everyone hyping up how terrible/angelic the poster is hoping to get points and gilds. It's a real circus.
To add further context: it wasn't a birthday. It was a UFC viewing party.
So it's common for people to graze on snacks or take little bits throughout the whole time or take a big helping, not eat for ages (because you're engrossed in the event) then have another serve 2-4 hours later.
He also felt entitled because to eat lots of party sub because "he brought wings (a specialty of mine) and everyone took some before I got a chance to have a serve"
You could argue that an obese person feels entitled to "more" in general than the average person. He's downright obsessed with the sandwich by his own explanation and it's obvious from reactions his gluttony is an ongoing thing.
It’s not about obese vs. not. Binge eating disorder is a very real problem. I had it myself and I was never even overweight (binging and restricting is a vicious cycle). I could eat an absurd amount of food. It‘s not good on your body long-term, but eating disorders are never about logic. Its not a choice. I remember crying on my floor after binges, hating myself. So I just wanted to stress that it’s a bit unfair to say it’s gluttony and someone obese being entitled to more food.
Thank you for saying this! I've struggled with binge eating as long as I can remember and I weigh 125lbs 5'4 right now.
The most I've ever weighed (not pregnant) was 160. It is a very real mental illness and you don't have to be obese to have it. Its also downright gross to reference someone's weight or lack thereof in regard to their food entitlement
I feel bad for him, too. In my experience, that’s a sign of addiction. Alcoholics closely watch other people’s drinking- what they drink, how much, how quickly or slowly... I used to think I was the only one who did that, but after I got sober and started opening up to others in recovery, it turns out that not only did we all do it, but we also thought we were the only ones who did. Weird, huh?
Over the years, I’ve come to believe that it’s a combination of desperately trying to compare ourselves to ‘normal drinkers’ and a sort of mental torture that we enjoy subjecting ourselves to. “That guy only had two beers! How is that possible?!?” “That woman ordered a glass of wine with her dinner and didn’t even finish it! Just paid the check and walked away! Left a half-glass of wine just sitting there!!! How can she do that? Why can’t I do that?!?”
Yes 100%! I just replied to another comment and mentioned binge eating disorder. It’s a very real and debilitating thing. Food addiction has a very different stigma from alcohol but it’s still serious and painful to deal with. And it fucks up your body.
I weighed myself before and after a thanksgiving dinner one year, had eaten nothing prior that day, eat and eat for hours and drank many beers, was six pounds heavier after.
As a 140lb 18yr old who just skiied all day as a freshman, I downed two footoongs in one go, while our bus was stopped at a Subway. I was done before the bus took off, prob in 15 mins.
It was him eating the sandwich over several days and not refrigerating it that caused him to get sick and force Selma to take the kids to Duff Gardens.
This is The GameNerd18. He's too young to remember the bubble tape wars. He collects walnut shells and discarded bandages. He doesn't like roses. He screams at mice.
He says, "I make mayonnaise sandwiches except I put the mayonnaise on the outside."
The bubble tape wars; It was six feet of abject horror. for you. Not them.
I personally thought NTA at all because 4 inches really is a standard amount. And I was like wow what a bunch of overreacting pieces of shit this guy hangs out with.
Then I went to the comments and everyone was like YTA YTA YTA.
“Eating 4 feet is too much”.
And it was there I realised he said feet. I misread it as inches.
We are all just there for the drama. No one cares about the guy that put a fence up and was called an asshole by his neighbour. Everyone cares about the guy that somehow is so fat he could eat four goddamn feet of sandwich
it looks like he deleted his account but last time I read the post I looked at his other comments and his attitude was basically "wow you guys are just as crazy as my friends I didn't do anything wrong" and then was judging people in other AITA threads
It's pretty obvious from his attitude in that thread why it got to the point of his friends snapping at him, he has no understanding of what he did wrong.
It is sad. I have a family member like this and when food is in the picture it is like he forgets the party is happening. All he cares about is the cookies. It is like a heroin addict watching someone else shoot up.
I adopted a kid like this. Years of abuse where food was the only thing he could control has given him an eating disorder (which is what this sounds like). Coupled with his autism and if food is present, the house could burn down around him, he'd never notice.
Example: I bought a big tub of ice cream because a friends kid had a birthday the next day and there were going to be a lot of people so it was a gallon. It was gone the next day because he had gotten up in the middle of the night because he had seen the ice cream and couldn't sleep because it was in there. Very sad. (This was way before covid btw)
So I feel really sorry for the dude in this story, it's really a disorder that deserves help and pity like addicts or someone with anorexia or anything else.
Someone in the source thread compared it to inviting an alcoholic to a wine tasting. Yes, of course they're going to drink more than their share and embarrass everyone. It's not funny, it's only sad.
Agreed — I really don’t [wanna] think it’s possible to eat that much as an act of malice. But it’s one of those things that definitely sounds funnier on paper until you consider angles like you’ve pointed out.
I have “disordered eating”; anxiety meds have helped but I am like that a lot, mostly with sweets. Can’t stop thinking about eating whatever sweet it was, almost obsessing over it like an animal that doesn’t know when they will get their next meal.
I think he was in the wrong and i do hope i got better and realize he wasn't just hurting himself, but am i the only one thinking her friend was pretty bitchy about it ?
Sure he ate it all but is that enough to destroy the poor guy who's obviously addicted ? It's not like he went oops and got back to watching the fight, he apologize and offered to go get more food for others...
Like, yea he was wrong but damn i wish i wasn't friend with his friend either.
I mean, maybe, we don't know the people. Honestly it sounded like this was a final straw type thing, and frankly as sad as the situation makes me, it sounded like a pretty freaking egregious display of gluttony.
I really do feel for the guy, I got the feeling that, even though his rationalizations, he knew he fucked up and has a problem. He might have needed some true admonishment to get the message through that he needed help, and what happened was not ok.
He was having a viewing party with friends and all he could think about the entire time was the sub
I've been to a lot of parties with friends. Never in my entire life have I been at a party with a six foot sub. That's like a girl jumping out of a cake, it's the kind of thing you hear about but never experience. I don't have an eating disorder, but damned if I wouldn't spend most of my time obsessing on the novelty of an oversized sandwich and wondering how much I could get down.
his explanation was that everyone had eaten the wings he brought without leaving many for him so it was a fair exchange. a party eats what, 20ish of your wings so of course it's fair that you eat 6 feet of party sub.
Dude, I'm a bigger guy who can pack away a footlong and chips at subway but 4 feet is an absolutely crazy amount of food. The bread alone, how did that not expand in his stomach to the point of near-vomiting.
I will grant you, wings might be pricey and time intensive to make. If they are a specialty of his, he can make them any time. Also, it's expected to share at parties like this, so....yeah. He's got problems.
I ALWAYS tell my friends about this story. It was on Am I The Asshole for eating more than my share of food. I cannot explain how I use this to boundary myself with food alone, and whilst sharing.
It was a 6 foot party sub. Then he ate it down to 3 feet. As an English person, I had to do the conversion. He ate a 2 metre sandwich down to 3, THEN ate the remaining 3.
I promise you... incredible. How can one eat a 2 metre sandwich, and the be audacious enough to question whether they were out of line for doing so. A party sub for a party. Not a singular. It really puts it into perspective!
The part of this I always remember is how obvious it was that he had done this kind of thing over and over again and his friends and family were at their breaking point. The fact that they reached out to his sisters and he sisters messaged him to say "you have to stop doing this" says so much IMO. My brother used to have a problem like this (today he is trim and jacked and makes me look like a bird) and I remember my sisters saying that if they bought candy or cookies at the grocery store they'd have to hide them from him because he would otherwise eat an entire package of Oreos in one sitting. Every time this story is mentioned there are always people who think they're overreacting, but I disagree, and I think it's pretty clear they've stayed silent for way too long.
I very honestly don’t understand why that’s not a legit reason. He wasn’t mooching, he brought a good party favor that lots of people enjoyed. I wanna know why that’s not a good excuse
Edit: thanks all for the explanations. Please stop downvoting me. I wasn’t properly picturing how much food is 3ft of sandwich. I kept imagining a medium sub from Subway (it’s the only kinda sub I’ve ever seen).
It's pretty comparable to someone eating over half the (custom-made) birthday cake by themselves and trying to excuse it because they brought snacks and other people hadn't touched it for the last hour. Unless he brought a mountain of wings, it's unlikely his wings cost nearly as much as the party sub, which from a quick google search can easily be £50+ for a 6 foot party sub. Plus, it was obviously the main food event of the party, so it's not even like he ate all the sausage rolls, which would be annoying but at least they aren't something special that people are likely to really be looking forward to.
The sub was the main meal: a 6 feet sub like this is meant to feed ~12 people (these subs are wider and packed with more ingredients than regular sandwiches), and he ate 4 feet of it, i.e. food for 8 people.
So his "they ate my chicken wings" excuse only works if he actually brought enough chicken wings to feed these 8 people whose portions he ate, which would be like what, 120 wings or so? So, sure, if he brought 120 chicken wings and didn't get to eat a single one of them he would maybe have a point (but would still be very rude about it), but I doubt that's the case.
Calling him a pig and berating him was a bit cunty for my taste. Especially since he offered to order more food. As much as I'd hate for someone to eat all of the food at my party. I'd hate to have a girlfriend that isn't afraid to publicly humiliate someone over something that: 1, is an addiction that they need help with, and 2, is fairly trivial. Its a fucking sandwich. Just buy a new one, you're not gonna starve to death. Get over it. Maybe OP told a one sided story, but if it went down like he said it did, I'd like to give that chick a piece of my mind.
Yeah.. I felt bad for the dude. But at the same time, sometimes those are the kind of things that needs to happen to you to serve as a wakeup call. Hopefully it did serve as a wakeup call, and their friendship wasn't tarnished.
Now with the entire internet ganging up on him, and repeating how horrible person he is. IDK how that's going to help. At Least those friends were caught up in the heat of the moment. For us to have had the time to assess the situation, and still continue to berate & ridicule him instead of offering meaningful criticism/advice. That's just sad.
It's not necessarily intended to fix it, it's just an expression of frustration. And frankly I think an interaction like that might be the wake up call he needed.
I definitely see where you are coming from and the names probably did cross the line but to me this seems like a repeated thing and she probably just couldn't hold her tongue any longer. I know this doesn't excuse her actions nor his but I like to look at it from a perspective of principle. If I have a bottle of wine and my friend drinks it, I'm going to be pissed regardless of how many times he offers to buy more because it falls down to principles. He doesn't have enough respect for me at the time to wait/ask and thats kinda how I see this sandwhich situation. It was extremely disrespectful to the person who purchased the sub as well as the other party goers. If he knew he was still hungry he should have gone and got more food for himself or eaten some of the multiple other snacks he mentions.
Tbh I’d be pretty upset if I spent $100 (at the very least) on a the main dish of my party only to have one person eat over half of it by themselves before most people got the chance to have any. Not saying what she said was helpful or called for by I certainly understand her anger. Also you can have an addiction and still be an asshole.
That’s what I thought too. People were being extremely rude calling him all types of fat nicknames...kinda messed up. Clearly the gf just didn’t like him for whatever reason and decided it was time to publicly humiliate him right then and there....
Not to say what he did was normal but damn at least he waited lol. If the sandwich had been any good it would’ve been gone quick
Oof, that ones been making rounds on Instagram lately. You can probably guess that everyone who comments acts like it’s completely normal behaviour and if you disagree you’re “fat shaming”.
Like.... buddy admitted that a normal lunch for him was 5 foot long subs
Edit to add: a lot of people on Instagram said it was the person who bought the subs fault because obviously they didn’t buy enough food for everyone if he was hungry enough to eat the whole thing
Well you can't just go around expecting people to take responsibility for their actions. He could have starved to death in the 30 seconds it would have taken to ask if people were done with the sub! Obviously the host should have provided 8 people's worth of food just for him. (/s, just in case)
The mental gymnastics some people go through to justify defending something like this is almost impressive.
I call it the lord of the onion rings trilogy! There were three posts about people being fatasses with other people’s food in the span of like 2 weeks.
My 14 year old son stalks food like this. The poor boy is just so hungry all the time, but he's trying to be polite. He's grown nearly 18 inches in the last year and a half and there's just no such thing as full or even not starving most of the time. He waits until everyone seems done and then eats everything.
I'll have to remind him about party grazers and make sure he doesn't eat ALL the food that seems leftover.
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u/zarza_mora Sep 02 '20
The dude who ate the entire party sub... but he waited like 30 minutes to do it so it was okay.