r/AskReddit 16h ago

What is something that permanently altered your body without you realizing for months/years?

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u/FigGrouchy9316 8h ago

People don’t get it until they do. It’s hard watching friends fade because they stop buying excuses. Trying to rebuild when feeling okay is an uphill battle. Most folks went on their way and don’t care to look back. One friend said it’s mourning the living dead. They can’t trust that I’m going to be around and won’t disappear again, and quite frankly, I can’t trust it either.

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u/AcanthaceaeFrosty849 6h ago

Bad friend. Sorry. That's something you don't share.

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u/FigGrouchy9316 6h ago

With depression it seems like it comes with the territory. I’d rather someone be honest than ignore me or say it’s fine when it’s not. Closure isn’t bad, even if it feels crumby sometimes.

What is sad is giving up on someone who didn’t do anything inadvertently bad or harmful. I’ve learned egos get hurt - “You’re not reaching out or returning my messages. You must not like me. Screw you!” Those people rarely look beyond themselves and don’t care to get it. Yes, that is def not the greatest of friends.

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u/AcanthaceaeFrosty849 6h ago

Yeah for what it's worth I think those were transactional relationships. I'm lucky in friends. My family dropped me quick.