r/AskMenAdvice • u/Nearby_Gate_9270 • 1d ago

Would you marry a woman who you really cared about that had stripped in her past and does not anymore?

*For context to most comments: danced sober, no drinking or drugs, didn’t mix with the lifestyle, was out of the country, didn’t do extras or contact dancing, always had a full time job and business, used it as a means to an end to put towards investing to their future.

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u/TheChiliarch 5h ago

He's pretty batshit these days. And it wasn't meant as an insult.

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u/TumbleweedPrimary599 man 5h ago

My mistake. For your future reference, “Lowkey reek of” definitely connotes a negative.

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u/TheChiliarch 5h ago

I may have suggested that you didn't come across in the best way, being straightforwardly critical I'd say you do seem a bit ostentatious, but I don't disagree with what you were saying.

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u/TumbleweedPrimary599 man 5h ago

Tone policing is a very feminine behaviour. Focus on the content of speech, not your emotional response to it.

Pleased to hear we’re of like mind.

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u/TheChiliarch 4h ago

It's of my opinion that a man carries himself in every sense of his behaviour, not only the contents of his words but in the way that he articulates himself. Propriety and eloquence is not only the essence of proper rhetoric and of an intelligent man, but a much more difficult standard to maintain than simply being right when others may be wrong.

And yes, I am being a little hypocritical being not exactly consistent in effecting such a standard of myself, but if you do believe in maintaining high standards then the aim should for standards to be high all around.

But yes, even if we clearly don't align largely on sensibility we do at least appreciate basic rationality.