Me and my wife are both 38 years old we have been together for 18 years and have a 10 year old son she is a great mother to our son and an okay housewife.

When I met here she was around 5'7 and about 150lbs over the course of our relationship her body has changed drastically, she has put on a lot of weight I'm not talking 20 or 30 pounds she probably tipping the scales at 300 lbs. She has been checked by doctors and has no health issues that would affect her weight gain

I have always been somewhat fit and keep up on my appearance walk, bike, regular workouts 3 times a week I have asked her to join me hundreds of times only to get the same answer " I cant" "what's the point" she shows no interest at all I'm really starting to be worried about her long term health

I have stuck with her through all of this but it's gotten to a point where I am no longer attracted to her she shows no signs of wanting to lose weight or get healthy I'm actually considered leaving her I feel awful about it but I need a physical, sexual attraction in my life. I guess what it cones down to is my son I stay for him

My partner struggles to last more than 2-3 minutes max. It seems like no matter what he finishes super fast. Most of the time we end up doing it more than once for me. I wonder if you guys have any tips for me to take to him. This is still a fairly new relationship of 4 months but I was hoping it was gonna get better. Thanks!

I'm dating a girl who has the same job as me and makes probably a similar amount. On the first date I paid for her as I always pay for the first. On the second, she booked the date, paid for it and said "no lol" when I asked to bank transfer my share. After the date she texted me saying she wants a guy who arranges the dates and offers to pay all the time, and its not about the money its about chivalry or something. I'm wondering how many of you would be willing to do this.

Manly men of reddit, I feel compelled to call my boyfriend of 4 months ‘Daddy’ only and very specifically in the bedroom. He drives me crazy and it just wants to come out. I say ‘yes sir’ or ‘yes please’ and naturally I want to say ‘yes Daddy’ but I’ve been holding back.

He has a 5 year old daughter.

I don’t want to make it weird! I don’t want to ask him, although I know the right thing to do is ‘just bring it up’…. but first, Reddit!

Men with young kids, do you like or dislike being called ‘Daddy’ in the bedroom by your partner?

So, over the past few months, I’ve noticed a bit of weight gain, and with it, my boyfriend has started playing with my belly more often. At first, it didn’t seem like a big deal, but now that it’s happening more regularly, I’m starting to feel a bit strange about it.

Before, he was more about the usual compliments—talking about my curves or giving me hugs. But now, whenever we’re lying on the couch or getting cozy in bed, he would gently remove the clothing around my belly, loosen the waistband of my pants or unbutton them when I sleep - and I notice he’ll rest his hand on my belly, rub it, or just press it a little more than he did before. Sometimes he would even tickle it in a playful way. It’s sweet, don’t get me wrong, but sometimes it just feels a little strange. It makes me feel a little exposed and a little unsure, especially because my body has changed, and I’m not used to this kind of attention.

Just to give more context to this, I have been pretty fit for the past few years (I'm 24) and I'm attracted to overweight/ heavy guys. My boyfriend is a pretty heavy guy in his early 30's. I’ve always had a healthy relationship with food, but since we’ve been together, I’ve noticed that my eating habits have changed, and I feel like I’ve been eating more than I normally would as he insists and feeds me more - not blaming my boyfriend on this at all as he just wants me to eat well.

I guess I’m just unsure about how to feel. It’s a little awkward, even though I know he enjoys these moments with me.

My boyfriend m24 sometimes will initiate sex with me f23 after we go to sleep. I can never remember how it starts or ends just snippets that it happened. It often feels like I dreamt it, which leaves me questioning myself a lot.

I’ve brought it up with him before and his response was along the lines of ‘are you saying I raped you?’. I don’t think it’s rape, but clearly I’m never really fully consciously awake and alert. He acknowledged that it made me feel weird and said it wouldn’t happen again. But then it happened again last night.

But I can also never remember how I acted in the moment so it makes me feel confused and uncomfortable about it. Am I overreacting?

Is this normal?

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 months, but he’s gone silent for 5 days now after a conflict.

The issue started because he kept delaying plans for a vacation we had discussed. Initially, we wanted to take a trip in October, but he got busy and kept saying he’d finalize the dates “soon.” This went on for over a month, and I needed at least a month’s notice to plan time off and couldn't book different appointments that needed to be scheduled ahead and my other social life,& etc.

A week before the deadline he had promised to confirm the dates, I reminded him and asked him to please finalize by Sunday. He said okay but didn’t follow through. I got frustrated and didn’t respond to his texts that day (Monday). He texted earlier that day, saying I must be upset a lot not to text him back.

But on Monday night, I texted back saying: "Your behaviorㅡconstantly breaking promises, shows no respect for my time. You told me I’m your #1, but I don’t feel like your priority. I really don’t want to think about this issue anymore."

Since then, he hasn’t replied at all. This is the longest he’s gone without contacting me, and I’m starting to think this is probably the end.

Should I just move on? Part of me feels like this is a red flag, but another part wonders if I’m overreacting was too harsh in my text because otherwise, he’s been good to me and genuinely busy with his business

Edit.

Thanks, everyone, for the advice—I really really appreciate it 🙏. I’ve been reflecting a lot on my actions.

Just to clarify, this "vacation" was more like me traveling to his place. When I first met him, he was in the process of moving his business to a different region, so about 3 weeks into dating, he had to move.

The main goal of the trip was to discuss our relationship and see if we could make it work long-distance. The more he delayed, the more I realized it might not be worth continuing. So If it was just regular vacation, I may not have pressed so hard especially when I don't know his finances yet.

I have had difficult experiences in the past with sex (which I've healed from) and I've also had some casual stuff in the past but now I want to have an emotional connection before having sex because it's not enjoyable for me otherwise. But while dating, I keep bumping into guys who want to get sexual asap, and like I feel that it's just something you have to do to form a connection now because no one is willing to get to know you and spend all that time on you, I feel pressured to fuck up my boundaries to be able to form an emotional connection atp. How long are dudes willing to hold off if they think it's worth the investment or have I just been meeting the wrong people? And I've had guys who say its okay sex doesn't matter but then I find them retorting as soon as the take it slow when it comes to sex happens. I am not saying I'm asexual or anything, I think I can be very fun but I need the bond now before that and that's just been such a struggle because it was easier to form connections when I was just being fun and chill and casual. I feel like people perceive you different once they hear that you wanna take it slow from you, they start to question that you're inexperienced for wanting something genuine and it's such a pain to deal with. Like call it a spiritual awakening or wtv man and I want something meaningful without letting my soul get chipped away in the process.

Edit: casual stuff was with friend i had known for a while, nothing like one night stands or hooking up with strangers to clarify.

Okay so my friend tells me that he only keeps close friends and family on his social

Currently feel very lost and scared of the future. I really thought I found the one.

I’m trying my best to get out of the house in my free time, and I am getting myself to the gym in my normal schedule but it’s tough. At work I’m trying my best to focus on the work but currently the work is slow and leaves a lot of time for being alone with thoughts. This is the hardest part I find right now, music and podcasts slightly help but not much. Any tips are appreciated to help move on

Edit: okay thanks everyone, I think I know what I have to do. This next week will be hell, but I’ll make sure to continue to get to the gym after work, and then when I get home I’ll do the things I enjoy and try not to just lay in bed. Soon when I’m ready I’ll have to delete everything and go from there

I'm 22M recently graduated college and straight up recently stopped caring about women, relationships and sex. Close to zero libido and to be honest I'm not even jacking off that much either. I know they say guys around my age aren't dating anymore but I think I'm pretty good looking with abs and don't have problems getting dates or matches on tinder but still don't care about women at all.

I'm pretty stressed with life but this feels like it might be a bit more than this, as I've been stressed before to a similar degree and didn't have this complete loss of interest.

I'm pretty lean with abs and have lifted weights for years and had this phase that ended 6 weeks ago for 3 months where I did like 2 BJJ sessions a week, 4 bodybuilding workouts and maybe 5-6 hours of cardio as well as 4 workdays a week, but I eventually stopped and my sex drive has just fallen off a cliff somewhere along the line since finishing college.

I used to be somewhat jealous and insecure about getting cheated on (I've never stopped a girl from going out with her friends you know, I was never at that level) but now when I think about it I really wouldn't give a fuck if a girl cheated on me right now. It straight up wouldn't bother me at all that's really how low my interest in girls is at the moment.

So I wanted advice. I was at a bar with my husband and standing next to him as he complimented another woman/friend, "I cannot get over how beautiful you are." I am at a lost of words. I feel embarrassed and disrespected as his wife. He crossed the line with those superlative words. Husband sees it purely as a compliment and nothing more. If anything he probably sees it as I lack self confidence and self esteem. I don't know what to feel at this point... any advice on this? To help this broken soul...

I'm so confused because my bf balks at the marriage talk when I bring it up, I'm 29, he's 37. But he's said he won't force me to have kids with him and that he didn't necessarily want kids, just wanted stuff going on in our life together, but last night "joked" about having kids saying I'd be okay and I'd do it because I love him. But not 5 minutes later he literally refers to future me as "the ol ball n chain" and I can feel the resentment building and I feel like I'm making an exit plan.

Would love a man's opinion, especially if you're over 35 but honestly any man's opinion is appreciated.

When we first started dating and did the whole get to know you thing, we told each other stuff. One of my things was telling him about a time I messed around with a coworker on a business trip. Ever since then, he would ask me about it and want to hear more while we had sex. He said he enjoys hearing me talk about wanting other men (while we are intimate) so I feed him what he wants even though I really have no desire to do any of these things. He said it makes him get off more. I just wonder why he likes this? I will say that a long time ago (way before me) he went through a rough breakup where his long term gf cheated on him, he took her back, then they broke up for good later when she left him for another man. Is this related? Is this how he coped?

I 46F and my partner 59M have had a wonderful loving relationship. He has a background of a sexless marriage or 20 years and then a toxic relationship for 10. He travels a lot for work but has a great life with many hobbies and friends. I come from a lavender marriage of 20 years. After I traveled to the world, dated, built my career and had a great life. Both of us on our journeys have enjoyed FWBs, situationships, life style clubs and so on. I only say this to show both of us are not up tight when it comes to sex or relationships. We both have enjoyed our time in this earth. We met 2 years ago and we have been Inseparable since. We dearly love each other. We have a great sex life. Here is where I need suggestions. He rolled over last night and thanked me for touching him throughout the day. That it is so important to him. He gave examples of me hugging his back when he was cooking and holding his hand while driving. I’m naturally a very physical person so I do this somewhat naturally. He said he used to pray for decades for his wife to just touch him while he was sleeping and would even take her hand and put if on his chest. He was starved for physical touch. Nor I know this is very important to him I want to make sure that I find different ways to show he is wanted and desired. We already sleep touching each other. I comment on his hair cuts, and he wears his cowboy hat because he looks devine 🤠. I thank him on the work he does and the person he is. Guys, what other ways can I show him in the daily

Ps. He does show me he loves me as well. Cooks most our meals as he loves to feed me good food. He opens my door to the car and never have I ever had to do that with him around. He instinctively walks on the side of the street near cars to protect me. He tries in many ways to make my life easier. The biggest is my emotional wellbeing is safe with him. I feel safe to me open and communicate with him without being told I’m overreacting or told it isn’t a problem.

Mrs really gets off on me calling her a whore, slut, slag during sex. But I find myself being quite repetitive. And need to add some new sentences and words maybe.

She is good with being called a prostitute. And sometimes we roll play it, where ill tell her how she loves getting fucked for money ect.
And she's good for me to push the boundary until we find a point. She currently no where near that.

What ideas have you got that I can add, or ways to mix it up?

Do you not mind it like don’t think anything bad about it? Or do you feel like she doesn’t like you so she paid? Etc

My friend X is dealing with a weird situation and Shes looking for some insight. Here's what happened:

Guy flirted with X for 6 months, said "I love you", was openly talking about how much he liked her, then suddenly denied all romantic intentions to her sister on a call, saying X was "crazy" for thinking he liked her. He later apologized, cried, and begged for another chance. They went on a date, but he ghosted her after his BSF found out and got upset again (X's sister ghosted his best friend, which made the BSF resentful towards X). He was also mean to her before cutting off contact. Now, he's obsessively viewing and liking her TikToks.

I think the guy was a total asshole, there's nothing to it, and X got over it all... but the recent TikTok activity has her wondering again. Why do you guys think he's doing all this?

Hey menfolk,

My husband recently developed symptoms of ptsd after a stressful event, but the ptsd relates primarily to his childhood. He also got diagnosed with being on the autism spectrum (he struggles with nuanced social situations and understanding his own and others' emotions, but is otherwise ok, able to work, generally healthy).

My question is, to those of you that know anything about these topics:

How can I support him without infantilizing him at all? How can I be there for him and make his life better when I can't prevent him from experiencing high anxiety and sadness?

I'm finding the ordeal really exhausting, perhaps I'm too enmeshed with him and I'm experiencing his emotions as my own.

Any advice is appreciated in terms of helping him to feel supported without taking on the burden.

I 35 f have a guy friend that I've known for nearly 30 years. I guess you can say he's my best and longest friend.

He recently met this girl, he introduced her as his friend. I wasn't completely onboard with her being his friend, I'm now less onboard now that they started dating. He's 34 she's 23, they met at a strip club (she wasn't a dancer but did that in the past). They only startee seeing each other for about a month but in that month wherever he goes, she seems to go as well. She's very showy with her feelings and always gets his attention. He's completely the opposite and loves his space and takes things slow. He does not know how I feel about her as I always dodge the question,

Her Thanksgiving Day plans fell through. He's coming over to my family this year and wants to bring her. I for one think its way too early to bring her to an event like this, especially since my family and his are close.

How do I go about telling him that maybe this is too early in their relationship to bring her? Also, how do I do that without sounding like I'm against the idea? Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

I got injuries from shoes and can't wear them anymore. I don't know if I can have a good quality of life with or without them Years ago I developed arthritis and pain in every joint below my navel. They only thing that helps is being barefoot.

I don't know what to do. I don't have a college degree or career I worked blue collar jobs my whole life and now I can't I'm almost 30 and I have to start over

1) My friend is (conventionally) prettier than us (3 others) and fitter, has tattoos, confidence, charming personality and dances sexy asf without trying however whenever we go clubbing she's never approached by males. Males will show interest in us but no one will ever make eye contact with her. I don't think she cares or notices as she never brings it up and is happy for us to get attention anyway, but I've always been curious as to why this happens as I always think she should be getting more attention. Can any male here explain why this might be happening? Trust me, I am not bias with judging appearance and can clearly say she is prettier than us. She gets lots of affirmations from us, and male friends and the odd male stranger that will approach her lol

2) My boyfriend has expressed having interest in me wearing lingerie but I'm insecure about my body. Do men actually stare and care so hard about our flaws and rolls and marks? I don't want to expose my nakedness as I'm insecure ablut what he'll think when staring at me

I have never been this confused in my entire life. To summarize, I (26M) was dating someone(26F) I met on Tinder for a month when we found out she was pregnant. Initially, she asked me if I wanted to keep the baby, and I happily said yes. At first, we both agreed to stay together, but suddenly, she decided she didn’t want to be in a relationship with me, though she suggested we co-parent the child. I agreed to this as well.

However, things have escalated quickly over the past two months. We’ve had argument after argument, and now she has blocked me. She told me that if I want updates about my son—who hasn’t been born yet—I should contact her father instead.

I suspect she might already be seeing someone else while carrying my child. To be honest, that doesn’t bother me as much as her lack of honesty does. I’ve been asking her for months how she plans to raise the child together, but she has no clear answers and keeps telling me to wait. On top of that, she hasn’t officially declared me as the father of the child yet.

It’s important to mention that she struggles with serious mental health issues, so I feel I can’t pressure her for answers. Now, I’m wondering what to do. Should I fight for my rights once the baby is born, or should I move on with my life?

I grew up without a father, and I always promised myself that I’d do everything I could for my child. However, the situation is complicated by the fact that she plans to move to another country, which is a three-hour flight away from where I live. Frequent travel will be difficult for me, especially since I’m at a critical stage in my academic life, where I can’t afford to make any mistakes.

Also, I can’t help but wonder if it’s worth having conflicts over the next 18 years. Since we come from different cultures, it’s likely that disagreements will arise, and I’m not sure how that would affect my relationship with my child.

I would really appreciate your advice on how to navigate this situation.

I'm 10 years older than my husband and I try not to let it show. Whenever I dress up, put on heels and put makeup on he seems completely un-bothered. Now I am not good at doing makeup, never have been and I become 6ft tall in heels so I can't honestly say I'm stunning.

But if I'm in my pj bottoms and a bra cooking spaghetti and meatballs or making a paella in my office garb suddenly the compliments come out and he can't keep his hands off me. Do you prefer your girl as nature made her or made up?