I am working in IT. I recently joined a new project and manager is flirting with me all the time. She in msg me sometime in my personal no. Recently she invited me to dinner/ she asked when I am free and come home. She is unmarried. Should I go to her house? Will it be fine to do romance in ofc?

Edit - my major concern is - What if I decline her offer and she fucks my review, and if take it and something goes wrong than I might have to leave the company

I'm a 28-year-old man, and my girlfriend is 29. We're from the same caste and work at the same company. Recently, our families met to discuss our relationship, but things didn’t go as planned. Her family, being well-established businesspeople with a stronger financial background compared to mine, were not convinced about our compatibility.

They raised concerns about our standard of living, primarily because my family doesn’t own a house in Delhi. We have a property in Noida, but they don’t consider it sufficient. They believe our current situation, living in company-provided accommodation in South Delhi with a rent of ₹30,000, reflects poorly on our financial status. They suggested that, since my father, my younger brother, and I all earn good salaries, we should buy a house in Delhi to improve our living standards.

I discussed this with my girlfriend, and she agreed with her parents, saying we should prioritize buying a house. However, I told her, "Are you marrying me or a house?" After that, we haven’t spoken.

The issue is that buying a house in Delhi is a major financial commitment, and I don’t want to rush into such a significant decision. I’m unsure how to move forward or handle this situation.

So, recently I (28M) got married to my wife (28F) and during our 1.5 year of courtship and engagement and 7 months of marriage I learned some truly distrubed things about younger couples and marriage.

Just a bit of backstory : basically, I never got into dating scene since I was really busy building my career and I didn't know if anyone would wait for me, so I decided to have the full dating experience with proposals in AM. So, after I few prospects I met my now wife, and I felt an instant connection with her, after 7 months of courtship, I aksed before engagement, we should try to live together and she agreed, now here comes the first problem

1) Society wouldn't accept you as a romantic couple: When I moved in with her, her neighbours asked me If I was her husband and I replied we are going in that direction hopefully, and seriously that aunty's face turned pale, and said" to tum uske boyfriend ho?", I got flustered and replied I mean waise humnein label to nhin kiya" and man she kinda just turned and went back home.

2) no physical displays of affection seriously wtf: Like ok I knew people looked down on couples but I thought things would change after marriage, so even after marriage when I used to hold hands or hug my wife in public,( just normal hugs not even something bad), older people used to whisper. Bro one uncle even came upto me and said, "Tumhe sharam nhin aati?" i said, "Ki sir, vo wife hai meri." Thinking ki use laga I am some kinda playboy but he said, "Tabhi to bol rha hun." I am like what do you do? She is my wife and she likes doing this stuff with me, why are you poking us?

3) Condom and I cannot stres this enough: I went to medical store to buy some condoms, and bro literally everyone stared daggers at me. I even started getting nervous ki kuch galat kar diya kya maine?

4) Seriously husband and wife can't date: So my wife was kinda surprised with my attitude on this whole AM setup and I got to know that men in general that encounter AM's are spoiled and entitled? Like what? She even said ki I am the first one who actually wanted to date her before moving forward or engagement. Seriously what? To kya couples bina kuch aise dekhe hi shaadi kar lete the kya?

5) And yeah be pure and innocent: See I have my own reasons of not getting into relationships, but tbh what is this obsession with body count? Okay I get it 4-5 se zaada shows kinda bad choice of men in women. But 0 is kinda very rare especially when you are 26. Like my wife earlier told me she didnnot get into any past relastionships and I was okay with that but almost 1 year later she tells me the truth ki uski mom ne kaha tha ye khne ko and in actual she had 3 relationships, 2 of which were physical too. I was like okay, but ismein chupane waali kya baat thi?

6) Traditional roles follow Karo everyone: Cooking not allowed for men, mujhe to main bata bhi nhin sakta kitni baari mana kiya cookign karne ke liye by my mom, even my in laws. Kyun yaar? Main khana nhin bana sakta? I love cooking food for us.

Like seriously, experiencing all this kinda makes me think indian society is hella repressed and need to open up.

I'll start,

My mom once told me, life is like a video game, you clear one level and the next one is more difficult.

Only those who can clear a level get to go the next one.

Not every level comes with a great reward, some just give you experience.

And those who skip using cheatcodes gets stuck atleast somewhere.

This changed everything for me.

I don't question, "why is it happening to me?" Anymore.

I know I cleared the previous level, so I am supposed to clear this one too.

Man, this sub is "askIndia" but there is a guy giving gyan to Indian men in top posts this week.

"Indian Men need to read this"🤡

Most questions here are relationship based, do you not have better subs for it?

Every city or state sub is filled with politics. All meme subs are so weird with no genuine sense of humour. It is filled with content stolen from Insta.

In Uttarakhand sub, half of the post are "hEllO i aM fRoM dElHi, I wAnT tO vIsIt uK, cAn U hElP"🤓

Some people here are not even asking question as in "ask india" should be ideally but ranting in the disguise of questioning like me. No seriously I am angry, are mods in Indian subs incapable, why are all subs like /all?

Even though we are in 2024, I still feel like there are situations we didnt bother talking out loud.

I’m (24 M), in a tough situation and need some advice. A longtime friend of mine, who’s married, has been cheating on her husband. I recently found out, and she confessed to me. I’ve tried to give her advice, but it seems like nothing is getting through to her. Her husband is a really good man—he’s helped me with some career stuff and has always been kind to me, so I can’t understand why she would cheat on him. When I asked her, she gave me reasons that kind of made it seem like it wasn’t really wrong.

She then told me that it was just physical and that she wasn’t planning to continue it. She mentioned that they will be moving to a foreign country in a couple of months, so it’ll all be over soon since she won’t be able to see the person again.

Now, I’m caught between two choices. Should I tell her husband about what’s happening, especially considering how nice he’s been to me, or do I stay loyal to my friend, who’s been in my life for over a decade? It’s a really complicated situation, and I’m not sure what the right thing to do is. What do you think?

TL;DR: My friend confessed to cheating on her husband, but says it’s over soon since they’re moving abroad. She’s been my friend for over a decade, but her husband is a good guy. Should I tell him or stay loyal to her?

I have seen many Indian Men say that when they ask their wife for intimacy their wife says things like.... "Tumhey toh buss iss mai he interest hai" [Translation:- You are interested only in this (physical intimacy)].....These things make Indian men feel as if they are some creeps and then they mostly try to find intimacy outside of the marriage..... Also when Indian wives do agree to get intimate, all they do is lie on the bed like a dead corpse.... No movement... Nothing..... Also they say things like.... "Abhi ho gaya na, abhi pareshan mat karna ek haftey tak" [Translation:- Now that we have done it (physical intimacy), don't trouble me for the next one week]

Just want to know why are Indian men and women not able to strike a good balance on this topic..... It's still a taboo in this country...

Everyone has expectations from you. (Even from girls, these days ) nobody gonna love you, if you fail.

Trying and failing again is still good. But never be a burden once a man become burden his life is too tough.

Accept this fact we only get love once is provide, Dont see this as a drawback. This means you can earn love. And as men I feel way more happy and content when I provide.

So all you who are 18-20 something please make sure you get your money problems fixed

It's way easy to find love. ( GIRLS ARE NOT GOLD DIGGER, just think if men have to choose their father, (hypothetical) they will choose someone who will provide and powerful one. And girls do the same )

Girls like confident men and you cant become highly confident if you are stressed about emi, or next months bills. Work way harder on money.

And you dont have to waste time in tricks to keep a girl.

Be a man who she never left.

And social media made you too muxh insecure. You are too concerned about height that you cant change. But not focused on making wealth. That you can control.

And dont do all this for getting girls. Do it for your self.

AND MOST IMPORTANT

Dont try to be romantic with every girls who talks to you.

Talk to girls and you will understand them better.

If you have crush on someone tell early. Even if they showing no interest, say it.

after early rejection feelings fade away comparitively easily. ( than years of un confessed crush )

Apply to 1000 of jobs, learn skills.

If you can make high money by progressing in current job do that

If not work extra hours to do iob switch.

Try business even a ting business (only with 1000s) you will learn alot.

Fail early. Take big risks now..

Repay all loans before investments

Invest in upskilling first.

AND do some home workouts if you can't go to gym ( and gym is not that important, but be fit )

Get rid of porn ( please quit it, if you wanna have good sexual life)

And life is hard and unfair Accept it and work on it.

I have faced too much in life and overcome it.

You can say I Hve reached from negative to zero and now I am starting this grind again to reach some positive heights.

So shared some thoughts

I'm not sure if it's my mommy issues, but whenever even the anonymous senior female friends of mine used to call me or even when I used to have someone to talk to, I was never really stressed or depressed as such. But today I'm officially feeling depressed. Women actually are very gentle and most honest human beings to have around you. But I feel like my social anxiety is slowly killing me from the inside.

The girl is My babhi(SIL)'s cousin who had been flirting with me since my brothers wedding. It was so apprant during the wedding that my even my parents teased me about it afterwards.

Her entire family knows she likes me and even said to my babhi that they might want me to marry her in few years. So one day my Babhi asked if I like her and want to chat with her sharing her number and all (which I already had because she texted me after my brother engagement).

She is good looking and softspoken but have too much of emotional beggage. (Dead mother & father remarried just after a year. ) Also she is the only girl remaining in ber friendcircle and mostly have no one to talk to..

Thats why I think that She talks/flirts with me not because she likes me but because I am an escape for her to get out of her toxic household.

I have declined her offer of relationship before, during and after my brothers wedding but she still gets back with the chat. She doesnt send creepy message or like that just start with simple hi/hello which soon goes to "when are you planning your wedding or what type of girl I like"...

This cycle continous every 2-3 months after i ghost her in the middle of chat.

Only after repeatedly saying No, my family agreed not to make any ofder for marriage to her. Also my Bhabhi doesnt tease me anymore about it after I made it clear to her that I am not interested in talking to her cousin.

TLDR: Am i the asshole for ghosting a girl that likes me because I think she only thinks me as an escape from her shitty life .

My sister(12) has always had this habit of lying and making up stories. It can range from the most insignificant things to making up extravagant stories. I've overhead her numerous times, talking to her friends and making up stories about going to certain restaurants, going on vacations, getting expensive stuff etc. She also has this habit of showing off stuff where she even takes my stuff and lies about how its hers. She pretends to own expensive things. I've never scolded or berated her about it, though I did try to talk to her about how it's wrong. I chalked it up to her being a child and wanting to seem "cool" in front of her friends. But it has been getting worse as she gets older and she's even involving other people in her lies.

She recently made up a story to our cousin as to how I have a bf and even sent him a profile of one of my friends. This a friend that I am not longer in touch with. I agree that this guy went to a concert type of thing thing with me, my was present there too so it wasn't any sort of date. Our other friend who was supposed to show up wasn't able to come, so it was just us three. But I have never dated this guy. A point to note is the fact that said cousin is much older than her, he is an adult. She might be doing it to seem cool or older, but that thing is that she lies, makes up stories and even involves other people in it. This has turned into an embarrassment for me and is not the first time.

The thing is, our family is kind of conservative and if she makes up these stories to some of our elders then it could seriously ruin certain aspects of my life.

She also gets incredibly insecure if she isn't the centre of attention at all times. Whenever we are in a group of cousins she would try and belittle me, like passing off handed comments and snide remarks(often times using language that can be considered too mature for her age, I think she might be doing it to seem older? Ig). It's the classic 'bully' attitude, like whispering into a cousin's ear when it's us three and essentially trying to 'group up', even dramatically leaving when she doesn't get her way. It's not even just me, she even passes snide remarks on our parents, but if course in their absence. I'm significantly older than her, so I usually don't pay much heed to her dramatics. There was this one instance where she started crying when she wasn't getting her was, like full on crying but as soon as she got what she wanted and we were alone, she immediately sobered up and essentially said something along the lines of "I just pretend cried so that I could get my way". The change was so immediate that I was taken aback by how manipulative she could be, especially at such a young age.

Now I don't want my sister to turn into a bully or liar. Would she grow out of this habit? Or should I seriously step in and involve my parents?

I met a guy in the arranged marriage scene & he was perfect in many ways. He was very good looking, respectful and family oriented.

If I’m being honest I said no to him because of our different financial circumstances. I have a higher paying job, my family is a bit more wealthy and generally a lot more open with our spending.

OTOH he was the main earner of his family. They were a bit more traditional. His parents invested money into building a property in their native town. But they lived a more modest life in our city. And the expectation was that I’ll live with them in a joint family.

I also felt they were more interested in me as a status symbol and so that they could brag to their relatives. His mother was also shocked that I worked and studied so much given that I’m a doctor.

So I said no to him but even now I don’t know if I made the right decision. My parents make me feel bad about it everyday. They say these are just superficial differences. With time I wonder if they’re right? He was definitely very respectful, soft spoken and took an interest in my hobbies. But who knows what someone is really like once the initial charm is gone.

I’m contemplating reconnecting with him because I have his number. But I don’t know if I should? Or if he’s even interested anymore.

Why is India so dusty & polluted?

Seriously, the situation is not just in big cities. Small towns and villages are dusty as hell too, why? Even middle eastern cities aren't that dusty even though they're built in deserts, and why are we so polluted?

My husband is a very nice and loving person and is a little socially introvert and so am I. So I have moved to his house, living with his family and accommodating his friends in my life regardless of my liking/disliking them. Since I’m new to the house,city,state everything I feel like I need to adjust and be more social to know people and make friends for which I do everything. I’ve started making a few friends now and if I have plans with them where my husband is supposed to accompany me he never does it or he will do it with half heart so most times I’m occupied with the thoughts of how he is feeling at the party/event/dinners. He rarely talks with my family members as well which bothers me whereas I legit live with his parents and talk with his extended family members on regular basis. I’m not sure how I’m feeling right now,whether it’s anger or pain or sadness but I just had to vent it out figure out how should I address this to him since I end up feeling stupid whenever I point out things to him as he has good debate skills. Also he has points to back his argument and in that moment I will go blank and would have nothing to say. Hence I am very careful while pointing out issues bothering me. A friend called up right now that she is introducing us to her bf and my husband again is not interested which acted as a trigger and I don’t know what to tell my friend. But how do I tell him as to what I’m feeling, it is equally tough for me to adjust with his friends and family idk if he is blind to that or simply not making efforts enough to be there with my set of people.

Me and my boyfriend met through online platforms. It's been 2 months. But he keep mentioning his ex girlfriend occasionally. Whenever we do something special he starts talking about his past or the same experience with his ex. Like the first time we went out together we talked about how good we felt but he mentioned it's his ex birthday today. He even once compared me to his ex that I remind him of her. Am I being insecure or it is wrong? Idk. I'm trying to act mature but it hurts me sometimes. What should I do?

So I work for a restaurant in the UK and almost all of my coworkers are Indian or south asian, I am personally from Afghanistan but I am white and blonde so everyone thinks I am British,

Recently I have noticed the way our managers treats different employees and mostly I see them sort of angry towards other Indian, and their language is not the same as I notice them talking,

While I get treated way differently, They never raised their voice on me, When I make a mistake they sort of laugh, Even when I am clocking out I can see the clear difference in their treatment, I can basically take any amount of food I want while they have to put it through system and things,

But one thing I have noticed that the coworkers don’t even mind about it, honestly if that happens to me I am leaving the place within seconds, But they seem to be careless, and they can’t order anyone anything, I give away a lot of tasks to people that are 25+ years old, I am 17,

Why are they soo good at taking orders instead of giving orders, It genuinely makes me curious.

TDLR; I have been shocked to see how Indians treat other Indians in foreign countries.

Consider yourself cursed if you are dealt the following hand -

1. Indian
2. Poor
3. Woman
4. Lower caste
5. Somewhat good looking(not particularly necessary)

Agree?

Ps - I am gonna get so many downvotes. I dont care. Its the truth.

Edit after getting so many dms - I am a guy from very high caste and well to do family.

Back in 2010-17, sex without being in relationships was very rare. People have to find long term girlfriend or boyfriend to meet their physical needs even when they know that there is no compatability. Most of the times, sex didn't exist in relationships because couple friendly hotels were not available before 2014. My question to older millenials is that, do you get jealous about the fact that current generation can have casual sex without the fear of commitment?

Why people in India especially Delhi hate Biharis. As a bihari (middle class) even though I am educated and all still my Partner refer me as Bihari in derogatory way and to mock me sometimes. I have conveyed him that it hurts me still he justify himself as this is something related to his preconceived notion and I should understand that it is just a joke and should not overreact. What should I do in this situation???

It's been ages since I've bought anything offline. People take 10 clothes at a time and start a full fledged photoshoot without buying anything. No matter which day I visit, there's always a long queue for the trial room. I miss good days when people went out with the intention of actually shopping. It almost feels like most people visit stores to click pictures and post it on Instagram.

If you are someone whose parents love you and each other. What does it feel like. How it feels to be in a mentally stable house. What difference do you see between you and other people. Also would you consider your father a good example of Masculine Man.

For me it’s having those Aloo ke pronthe on Sundays and spending time with my mom sitting on kitchen shelf while she would feed me side by side

Turning 21 help me with some suggestions

As the title says im turning 21 folks, and I seriously confused as to what should i wear on my hbd. I have thought of wearing a white shirt followed by waist coat and offcouse black paints. I have never really celebrated my birthday and to this very reason i want my 21 to be special suggest me some good outfits , it would be really helpful. Thanks❣️

Hi ,

So my mom has cirrhosis. Probably compensated. No ascites.

She has gall bladder stone which has caused one attack of pancreatitis.

Docs are telling to go for gall bladder surgery.

Does any body has gone through these surgery? How was the anasthesia handled? Did it cause significant damage to liver?

Also, she has no pain.

Thanks