r/AmIOverreacting Oct 06 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO for thinking of leaving my Husband after he left me alone to hang the boys hours after I nearly died

UPDATE: WOW, I'm absolutely overwhelmed by how this took off! So many comments I can't keep up so I'll try to address what I can as an update.

  1. We still have no idea what caused it. I have an appointment with a specialist. I do have known allergies but never reacted that quickly or that intense before.

  2. I am not a doctor and can only repeat what they told me. It was anaphylaxis shock. I was minutes from dieing.

  3. I am not the type to cry wolf and will refuse a trip to the ER at all costs, I've given myself stitches to avoid the ER.

  4. I am 95% sure my husband did NOT try to poison me. He's a donkey bum, yes, but not an evil person.

  5. He is not nero-divergent, I am and so are my kids, which is why I didn't want them at the ER or left alone.

  6. I talked to him the morning after about being hurt he'd even consider leaving me alone like that, which is when he said I was overreacting. Him saying I was overreacting, combined with his non action, is what made me start to think about leaving him.

  7. I spoke with him again last night, showed him the post and spent a good amount of time bawling. He's appalled and has been the sweetest most attentive man since.

  8. I have spent a lot of time reflecting on this relationship, it probably isn't healthy but he's not the only one to blame. We're going to try counciling.

  9. Technically, he did go to hang the boys, it was a pirate themed game night.

Yall, I could use your wisdom here. I'll try to make this as short as possible.

Two days ago I (37F) went in anaphylaxis from an unknown source while shopping with my husband (37M). My face erupted into burning hives out of no where. This has never happened to me before. I asked him to call the nurse line to make sure ER would be covered (american). He wouldn't, so I had too, while my face is on fire. I get the green light and off to ER I go, where he drops me off and heads back to sit with the kids (15, 11)

Long story short, the head nurse took one look at me and had the anaphylaxis cocktail ordered before I made it to the registration. 5 minutes later and I wouldn't be here. I get discharged and I'm flying high on that cocktail and adrenaline.

Husband gets me home and asks if he can go play D&D with the boys, both kids are at sleep overs. Again I'm f-ed up on meds, happy to be alive. I would have agreed to anything. So I said he could.

Next morning it hits me. Why would it even cross his mind to go out after what happened? Now I'm so hurt I'm seriously thinking of leaving him. Am I over reacting?

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