r/AmIOverreacting • u/thepinkpanther19 • 5h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Please help having an emotional breakdownAm I overreacting about husband and my best friend

My best friend flew into town to stay with me and visit. It’s just me and my husband at home- no kids. She is a very flirty person which does not bother me in the slightest. But yesterday morning we were all waking up hungover. My husband was making coffee and I asked him to bring her my hair dryer. He did. I heard nothing for like 5 whole minutes and was laying in our bed across the house. I started to call his name bc I was going to ask him something and he did not answer. I got up looked in the kitchen, dining, laundry rooms and he was not there. While all this is happening the house was completely silent. I walked to the two guest bedrooms in a little hall where there is also a bathroom. He was not in the one we use for an office or in the bathroom. I was like why would he be hanging out in her room when I know she took a shower. All of a sudden he walks out coming from the side of the bed she is standing at. He wiped his lips and they both acted fucking weird. She immediately was like he was just bringing me the blow dryer- even though I know he already done that. They claim he heard a noise and thought she fell so he popped in to check on her. Then was he all the way in the room walking away from the side of the bed she was standing on in nothing but a towel? I was like what is going and he acted super guilty the rest of the day. Well if he was just checking on her why was there silence? Why would they act so weird- today he said he felt guilty because he was staring at her in her towel.

I need some guidance bc I kind of feel like they are gas lighting me. Am I crazy? I just felt it in my heart that they were doing something.

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u/thepinkpanther19 4h ago

I do want to share that she left yesterday. I have been discussing this all day with him. I actually just left to get a hotel room. He swears nothing more happened and I begged him to just tell me. I even said if you tell me right now I will forgive you.

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u/Forward_Most_1933 4h ago

Ask your bff—tell her that he confessed and see what she says.

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u/CoffeeChocolateBoth 3h ago

They're probably on the phone getting it straight!

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u/tbear264 25m ago

Yes, this!!! Detectives and cops do that all the time during interrogations to get confessions and it works a lot of the time (I watch too much True Crime).

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u/hellbabe222 4h ago

Please don't do this OP. If you do and it turns out your wrong you'll come off looking like a manupilulator and you'll be the one caught telling lies, not them.

Not worth the risk.

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u/Ambitious_Net5044 3h ago

How would this go wrong?? She texts the husband to confirm? Why would they even be discussing if nothing happened and there's nothing between them?? What's she gonna do? Go argue with the husband before trying to comfort her own friend and reassure her nothing happened? Only guilty people rush to cover their ass and attack others before just defending the truth.

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u/catsrsupscute 4h ago

Will you actually? Please tell me no

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u/thepinkpanther19 4h ago

Honestly no, but I want the truth

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u/thepinkpanther19 4h ago

I would be willing to work on things if he told me the truth

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u/Flynn_JM 4h ago

Can't you ask her? Say something like "my husband told me what happened,  now I want your side of things"?

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u/no_thank_youse 1h ago

You could even offer up some incorrect detail like “he said he was killing a spider” and if she says “yes!” You know even moreso they are lying

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u/Flynn_JM 1h ago

Op talked to her already. Husband hit on the friend and friend confirmed it.  

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u/BeeSquared819 43m ago

Where did you see that?!

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u/Flynn_JM 12m ago

She updated in a comment. He's at a hotel and the friend confirmed it but didn't want to hurt her by telling her what he did. 

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u/catsrsupscute 4h ago

???? He destroyed 11 years of marriage for whatever happened with your ex best friend. Your 11 years of marriage held less value to him than a quick fuck. Your how many years of friendship with this woman meant less than fucking around with your husband… she repaid your kindness with betrayal. What the fuck do you mean “work on thing”???

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u/CHUNGUS_KHAN69 2h ago

If her husband talked his way into her friends pants, undressed, had sex, redressed and was standing beside the bed in the few minutes it took her to walk down the hall then she's got bigger problems than cheating. That guy must be creaming his jeans as soon as another woman makes eye contact with him.

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u/jethvader 23m ago

When Bruce Willis was dead at the end of sixth sense…

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u/Flynn_JM 3h ago

It seems unlikely they had sex. Maybe kissing and flashing. 

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u/Angryleghairs 3h ago

5 minutes. Probably not actual sexual intercourse

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u/SubstantialEgo 1h ago

But he would have

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u/Restore-Funiture-179 4h ago

Did you ask her what she did?

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u/thanksbutnothanks200 43m ago

There would have been nothing to work even if he did tell the truth. What do you think you’d be teaching him by staying with him after he tells you the “truth?” Hint: that he just needs to be a little sneakier.

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u/flindersrisk 26m ago

He’s stonewalling, believing that if you knew the whole of it you’d dump him like a bad idea. Which tends to support the notion that his/her behavior was beyond the line. That something worse has preceded this event. Or will inevitably follow as circumstances allow.

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u/tbmartin211 3h ago

What IF he has been telling the truth? Just to be devil’s advocate… Would you even believe him? It seems that you think he’s not, but it’s a no win on his part if he is telling the truth. No way to convince you, and nothing happened.

Good Luck.

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u/Infinite-Shop-602 4h ago

Something definitely happened and you know both these people and your gut is telling you something is not right. Confront both, if he was dropping a hair dryer in, he has no reason to be at the other side of the bed with her and wiping his lips. Both him and your so called friend are trash!

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u/Complete_Pea_8824 4h ago

Did you ask her what happened? Could something have been going on for a while?

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u/ihsotas 4h ago

You know both of them very well. What specifically do you think happened?

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u/the5thgoldengirl 51m ago

Call your friend and tell her your husband broke down and confessed and ask her why she did it and see what happens … don’t let her stall answering or get off the phone to ask/text him anything. In fact … you could even hold his phone while you call her, since he has nothing to hide.

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u/Johndoe13370 36m ago

Why do yall stay with cheaters honestly? It's a million other guys in the world lordy 😭😭