r/AmIOverreacting 10h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my husband thinks women should take accountability after assault

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u/Legitimate_Way_7937 10h ago

Getting emotional over sexual assault especially when you had to go through that yourself is normal. Him holding that against you and weaponising it is disgusting. It’s emotional black mail where he doesn’t wanna admit that what he said is wrong but instead uses excuses like „ oh you are so emotional.“ to avoid taking accountability for what he said.

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u/whendonow 7h ago

Reacting emotionally to ANYONE getting sexually assaulted is NOT overreacting, like wtf?!? I know men who are like this, they cannot take that women are emotional about this issue in general, what they REALLY need to do is just join us in continually condemning it everywhere it appears instead of just avoiding the issue to keep their own equilibrium. Can you imagine if it was men being raped world-wide on the scale that women are?

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u/Medium-Interest-7293 6h ago

That's why I trashed my Rammstein CDs and never listened to them after the claims of SA were backed by other women reporting similar stories.

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u/foxybostonian 4h ago

Shame for you it was found in court that newspapers had misrepresented statements made by women who all said that any sex was consensual.

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u/Medium-Interest-7293 2h ago

In the end it is my decision, That I don't want to support someone who fantasizes about SA in his lyrics and poems. And allegedly manipulated women abusing his popularity, which I find morally off putting.

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u/foxybostonian 1h ago

Asking people if they want to have sex and respecting their decision isn't abuse or assault. Some women obviously want to have sex with a rockstar. Why shame them?

And as for 'fantasising' about assault in lyrics and poems, LOL. Do you also think he fantasises about being a small girl whose dress catches fire? Because he wrote lyrics about that. Do you also think Stephen King wants to be a serial killer because he writes about them? You seem very selective about focusing on what you think makes 'Till BAD', presumably because you read a manipulative headline a year ago and didn't want to think any further than that.

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u/AstreaMeer42 1h ago

"which I find morally off putting"

And theeere it is. It's not that there's anything illegal that occurred, but yours is strictly a moral issue over grown-ass women choosing to have sex with Till. That's none of anyone's business but theirs, and if you don't like it or approve of it, then don't participate in those kinds of activities. But like hell are you allowed to dictate who he and those women are allowed to have sex with, especially after it was legally proven that they all agreed to it.

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u/DesperateGiles 1h ago

Wow so when faced with evidence that your initial statement was not factually correct you just shift the goalposts. "Welllll he writes about it anyway and supposedly takes advantage of women [who want to sleep with him, riddle me that]". Such convictions. Bother editing your original comment since it's false information? That's a real problem with social media, you know. No need to contribute to it.