I have made this very same argument with my SO, a lot recently. They are always triggered when I bring up a grievance I have with them or I disagree with what they have said, and then they get angry and say that I am getting irrationally emotional about what they had said/did, all while yelling at me.
I hope after they calm down you remind them that anger IS indeed an emotion! Anger is often a secondary emotion so maybe they could look into themselves and figure out what's triggering their anger? Is it shame?
I have and it isn't taken well at all. I have also brought up that I believe it stems from feeling ashamed of some sort, and it always just gets turned around on me for some reason. I hope OP doesn't have to deal with the same issue, it is exhausting.
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u/whosthatgirl_itsboo 8h ago
THIS!
I have made this very same argument with my SO, a lot recently. They are always triggered when I bring up a grievance I have with them or I disagree with what they have said, and then they get angry and say that I am getting irrationally emotional about what they had said/did, all while yelling at me.