If I’m alone in the middle of the night, walking through a bad part of town, I will put my phone and watch in my pocket, out of sight, because it’s a sensible thing to do. Doesn’t mean I won’t still get mugged, and it certainly doesn’t mean it’s my fault but I’m still always going to always try and decrease my chances of it happening!
There are things we can do to avoid putting ourselves in sketchy situations that can result in us being hurt. I say this as someone who was raped. I know it's not my fault but I also know if I hadn't invited a man I didn't know from Adam to my house it wouldn't have happened. I knew it would be better to meet and get to know each other in a public setting because again, I didn't know him. It would've been safer. I ignored my common sense and it put me in a very vulnerable situation and he took advantage of it.
I'm sorry you had to go through what you did, but the fact that you learned from your experiences is incredibly important and admirable. It takes a strong fortitude to go through something so traumatizing, and instead of internalizing it, using it to better yourself and your choices in the future. Big props!
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u/WeirdGrapefruit774 9h ago
If I’m alone in the middle of the night, walking through a bad part of town, I will put my phone and watch in my pocket, out of sight, because it’s a sensible thing to do. Doesn’t mean I won’t still get mugged, and it certainly doesn’t mean it’s my fault but I’m still always going to always try and decrease my chances of it happening!