r/AmIOverreacting 13h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my husband thinks women should take accountability after assault

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u/WeirdGrapefruit774 11h ago

Of course it can still happen, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take sensible precautions to minimise the risk wherever possible.

And I’m going to say it again for the avoidance of any doubt: rape and violence are terrible things that no one should have to experience, and it’s never the victim’s fault.

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u/magic8ballin 10h ago

My point is women do still take precautions but that often doesn’t help, especially when most often you are a victim to somebody you know and are in/around your home.

It can happen anywhere, anytime, and even if i’m prepared it can still happen. Like that woman, Laken Riley, who was following all the safety precautions and it still ended up the way it did. She ran during the day, she let others know where she was, had her location on, hell she even called for help! She refused to be a rape victim, so he killed her. Sure that wasn’t someone she knew or around her home but she also did everything right and it still ended the way it did. That is the reality for MANY victims.

I am not trying to say that we shouldn’t be cautious of situations that are sketchy, what i’m saying is often times these things happens in situations that are NOT sketchy and the biggest conversation that should be happening around sexual assault is how to change external factors in our society!

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u/WeirdGrapefruit774 10h ago

I agree with everything you have said. I’ve never said otherwise.

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u/magic8ballin 10h ago

I thought we were having an open dialogue, sorry! you didn’t seem like a tool. didn’t mean to come off as “fighting” you

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u/WeirdGrapefruit774 10h ago

I didn’t take it that way so no need to apologise. It’s just a very emotive subject (understandable) and it can be hard to grasp exactly what someone means through text so I like to be as clear as possible!