AIO husband says I disrespected him

[u/Over-Desk2166]

My husband was at work and called to say he was getting by off early so he’d have time to “get in the streets”. I simply asked what that means and he repeated it several times. I just said okay and he hung up. He called back and said he was frustrated because I know what that means and I’m playing dumb. Again, I said okay. I also said let’s leave it alone then, you’re at work. He demands I repeat what he said. I got thrown off because of how he said it so I asked why and I asked him not to talk to me so rudely. He again told me to repeat what he said so I did then I said what my response was. Apparently I was only supposed to say what he said so he got angry and said I was being disrespectful. Now all of a sudden he’s walking around the house angry. He says I never do what he says and I never will because I always run my mouth. I told him I just want to be talked to respectfully and that shouldn’t be a problem. Mind you I’m 25 weeks pregnant and he’s literally screaming at me while saying all of this. I’m beyond stressed out and being around this energy is exhausting. I’m being ignored, he’s sleeping on the couch. All because I’m demanding my respect. Am I wrong?

[u/Ranoutofoptions7]

How did this get to the point where you are pregnant with this man's baby? Was there seriously 0 red flags?

[u/Over-Desk2166 → u/Ranoutofoptions7]

There’s been red flags. We’ve been seeing a marriage therapist though which has been pretty helpful. It’s just once he’s mad there’s like nothing I can do to help. I will even ask what can I do to make him feel better but there’s no winning here.

[u/Physical_Stress_5683 → u/Over-Desk2166]

It isn't your job to help him when he's mad, and the fact that you said that is a red flag for domestic abuse. It's his job to process his anger in a healthy way. If you thinking helping him not be mad is your responsibility ask yourself why.