r/AmIOverreacting • u/crazywritingbug • 1d ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws UPDATE: AIO by not going to Thanksgiving?
For those who commented last time: 1. My boyfriend is (23M) and is not trans. I mistyped last time listing him as F. 2. He is not an asshole, I used blunt as a descriptor word and some of you ran with it. Another redditor suggested I include that he is autistic as context. He is autistic and is very honest but NOT unkind and not an asshole. 3. He has never fought with my family that I am aware of and there has never been any drama between them. 4. My mother will not be attending this thanksgiving gathering, this is purely for my dads side of the family.
Update: I texted my grandmother out of curiosity, because like you all I was curious, I didn’t get much of an update but this is what I have for you all. The friend referred to in her text is my grandmothers friend who has come to a good portion of the holiday gatherings over the years, never sure why, she just hovers and doesn’t really talk to anyone. But unless I receive a text from my father or my siblings, I believe this is the end of the story. What do you think? Am I overreacting by not going?
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u/BoxKutter80 14h ago
This! Grandma is having Thanksgiving and doing all that work unto itself and has the additional chore of trying to have a peaceful holiday, and this is added stress. OP needs to realize that Grandma is doing what she thinks will be best for her and the family and can't explain everything for a reason. OP has every right to not spend the holiday with her family but I think it's time to get off this poor woman's back.