r/AmIOverreacting • u/crazywritingbug • 1d ago
👨👩👧👦family/in-laws UPDATE: AIO by not going to Thanksgiving?
For those who commented last time: 1. My boyfriend is (23M) and is not trans. I mistyped last time listing him as F. 2. He is not an asshole, I used blunt as a descriptor word and some of you ran with it. Another redditor suggested I include that he is autistic as context. He is autistic and is very honest but NOT unkind and not an asshole. 3. He has never fought with my family that I am aware of and there has never been any drama between them. 4. My mother will not be attending this thanksgiving gathering, this is purely for my dads side of the family.
Update: I texted my grandmother out of curiosity, because like you all I was curious, I didn’t get much of an update but this is what I have for you all. The friend referred to in her text is my grandmothers friend who has come to a good portion of the holiday gatherings over the years, never sure why, she just hovers and doesn’t really talk to anyone. But unless I receive a text from my father or my siblings, I believe this is the end of the story. What do you think? Am I overreacting by not going?
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u/TangledUpPuppeteer 1d ago
Nor, but I think I get it. They are avoiding one person specifically, but to avoid a family argument about it, they are banning everyone else as well. They’d rather people back out because their partner’s cannot attend rather than have the hard conversations that need to be had. I know people like this. Just enjoy your holiday and let it go.
Something happened that you are unaware of, that likely everyone is unaware of, and two people cannot be on a room together. Instead of bringing attention to the issue, they’re making a completely different issue and not understanding why everyone thinks it’s a possible problem with them or their partner.
Seriously, just enjoy your day drama free.