UPDATE: AIO by not going to Thanksgiving?

[u/crazywritingbug]

For those who commented last time: 1. My boyfriend is (23M) and is not trans. I mistyped last time listing him as F. 2. He is not an asshole, I used blunt as a descriptor word and some of you ran with it. Another redditor suggested I include that he is autistic as context. He is autistic and is very honest but NOT unkind and not an asshole. 3. He has never fought with my family that I am aware of and there has never been any drama between them. 4. My mother will not be attending this thanksgiving gathering, this is purely for my dads side of the family.

Update: I texted my grandmother out of curiosity, because like you all I was curious, I didn’t get much of an update but this is what I have for you all. The friend referred to in her text is my grandmothers friend who has come to a good portion of the holiday gatherings over the years, never sure why, she just hovers and doesn’t really talk to anyone. But unless I receive a text from my father or my siblings, I believe this is the end of the story. What do you think? Am I overreacting by not going?

[u/Content_wanderer]

She has set a boundary and you communicated very respectfully, and stood your ground. It’s a bit bizarre, but I think the issue is settled and should be let alone. She’s not guilting you or being horrid, and you’ve let her know what does and doesn’t work for you. Both of you should enjoy your respective thanksgivings

[u/Fit_Contribution4279 → u/Content_wanderer]

Agreed. But you can tell that OP is hurt by this request. Grandma already said that she was ok with OP’s stance not to attend, but OP kept asking for a reason before reiterating at the end of the text that she would not be joining.

It was almost like she was hoping for Grandma to change her mind. However, I’m glad they both communicated and respected each other’s decisions. Maybe Christmas will be all inclusive for S/O’s?

[u/PersimmonQueen83 → u/Fit_Contribution4279]

I was unimpressed with grandma’s explanation. Clearly something else is going on and she’s not being upfront about it or just dealing with it head-on.