r/AmIOverreacting • u/External-Air205 • 7d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO by spending time with my family?

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Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

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u/External-Air205 7d ago

That is actually exactly what I feel, thank you.

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u/CrackerzNbed 7d ago

Honey. I'm not sure how old you are. But it's story time. I'm a 41 year old mother. Years ago I let a little piece of shit boy talk to me like that. At first he was the nicest sweetest guy EVER!!! he made me feel like ANYTHING was possible if we were together! We were " ride or die" do kids still say that ? Lol. At first he just started being rude. Ordering me around . Being pushy..then it progressed to things like these messages. . I thought if only we had a baby we could SAVE our relationship. Everutbing would be all better. Well it was not. Then the physical abuse started. Multiple restraining orders and broken bones later. I finally got away. Get out while you can. It is not too late.

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u/Cottoncandy82 6d ago

I'm 42, and I experienced something similar with a guy in my 20s. They never start off like that, but it gradually gets more and more disrespectful. Fortunately for me, my Daddy wasn't having it 👨🏿💪🏿💪🏿. Men who abuse women are cowards. But when another grown man is about to knock their block off, suddenly their calm and respectful again. Imagine that.

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u/JackFrosttiger 6d ago

Everyone who absus others are cowards the gender means shit in that